Rekindle a broken friendship or not?

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I had a best friend from sixth grade til the last year of college. The problem was I was always the "side kick" and she had a habit of needing to one up everything I do, call all the shots, made fun of the guys I dated... If I was single and she wasn't she gave me crap for not having a man in my life - but reverse that and I was wasting my life not partying it up as a single girl.

We had a falling out about 5 years ago where it was the last straw. We had plans, which she cancelled at the last minute telling me she was "broke and not feeling well...just wanted to stay home." Which was fine... Except an hour later she posted a facebook status that she was out at the bars with her other friends.

I was upset about being ditched, and mostly about lying about it and being obvious when caught!

I waited a few days for an apology and when she finally reached out all she said was "stop being a baby."

So, we havent spoken since then.

For the past two years I've had bouts of wanting to reconnect...we both got married and it bums me out we weren't even speaking since growing up we were inseparable. But every time I think about reaching out I remember why we stopped talking to begin with, and realize she hasn't made an effort to reach out either.

So...has anyone else had a similar situation? Should I suck it up and reach out or leave the past in the past?

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I've had friendships like that in the past. Looking back, I realized they were never my friends to begin with. A friend does not do the things she did to you. I would forget about her and move on.

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She sounds toxic, I wouldn't let her back in. There's a reason you cut her out in the 1st place.

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I wouldn't unless she gave you some reason to think she had grown up.

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I had a friend like this, only we were inseparable in college. Sometimes you just grow apart and become different people as you mature. I will say that a friendship is only worth as much as each person is willing to put into it. If its one sided youre setting yourself up for disappointment. Sometimes its best to let sleeping dogs lie.

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How did you feel when you were together?  I think that will answer the question of whether or not you should continue or rekindle any friendships.

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If it will make you feel better to know you did everything you could do to be the bigger person... I say reach out to her. Nothing to crazy but it's worth saying hi and 'opening the door' for her to apologize or talk to you now. People grow up and change. Start the conversation and then leave it up to her if she wants to move forward or not.

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Let it go you may miss your "friend" but she didn't really seem like a friend.

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Ive been in the same situation but only that my bestfriend was jealous that i was into a relationship that she thought i was replacing her and thought that i wouldnt spend as much time with her as i used to. Then as time went by we seperated we havent talked for a whole year. I thought about everything and i knew that she was right that the guy for me wasnt really for me. I felt nothing but terrible and i missed her so much now we are strong and i couldnt ask for a better bestfriend! So yes i think that you should reach out for her! Tell her how u feel how much everything hurts you that she does and say. And if she cant exept that the push the past to the past and move on because people like that shouldnt stop you from doing what u want to do . There your desisions not anyone elses! I hope this helped good luck!

Rekindle a broken friendship or not?

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