Why is it so hard to find a female SO?

Lauren
For some reason it seems like everyone, lesbians/gays included, is intimidated by bisexuals and shuns them. It's like they think we are either confused or just jerks who want attention. Like seriously as a bisexual I mean I love men and women. I could be married to a man or a woman and it would make no difference to me I would just love them for who they are. That being said, I have had a hard time finding a girlfriend because it seems like lesbians avoid me and other bisexuals just want to hook up and head out. Is it me or what?
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Az

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I think, as a whole the LGBTQ+ community is very closely guarded and kinda turned off by anything that isn't a definite straight or gay. That being said, as a lesbian myself, I don't see what the aversion to bisexuals is. You are just like the rest of us, and belong in the community just as much as the rest of us. You'll find the one you're meant to be with, whether it's a man or a woman when you're meant to. In the mean time, just let the haters roll off your back. Even if it really does hurt pretend like it doesn't. Don't give them the satisfaction of knowing they got to you.

Am

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It isn't just you I promise! It happens a lot more then people think. Keep your head up , it'll happen beautiful💜

Ma

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I'm bisexual. And I think a big part of it is maybe the feel we are mocking them without trying to be them. I can say I love men. I do. But the feeling when I'm with a girl is equally electric for me. And they don't get that

Ta

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I'm a lesbian and honestly I used to not date an mock bi woman because I was insecure, angry at the possibility they will hurt me with men and ultimately embarrass me. So many woman use lesbians for attention but sometimes when you are that lesbian you can't place your feelings aside to determine who is using oi and who is simply just going through the same things you did just to figure out who they are and if they are bi and are fully comfortable with that I guess it is as intimidating as being that bi girl who is only bi to be socially acceptable and being around the fully confident lesbian.. Age and insecurities.. If they have a problem with your sexuality or better still if they want to change you in any way they probs are not right for you. 

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I agree! The struggle is real

Ro

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I know

Se

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I feel the same way it's hard finding a girl and  I feel like lesbians think I'm confused but why can't I enjoy both? And I hate dating websites i feel like a guy can be on a lesbian site and pretend he's a female cause I've had that happen! So I'm a little discouraged!

Am

Amber • Sep 18, 2015
I completely feel the same way, I have a SO who's okay with me having a gf but neither of us want me on a dating site because let's just face it.. there's alot of creepers out there and I personally have had an encounter with a man who was pretending to be a woman and was getting her pictures from google.. and when you meet women you're attracted to you can't just be like are you gay?.. it sucks 😢