What should i do?? :(

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I had my baby 5 days ago and got so depressed with breastfeeding i felt everyone was pressuring me too much (the nurses,doctors) so last night i just quit because i couldnt handle it and so i felt ok since then but now im crying again and i dont know why anymore i love my daughter so muchbut everything seems so overwhelming this is my first baby and now i feel so weird and distant from everyone and i feel guilty for feeling this way . will this just go away on its own ??

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You only had your baby 5 days ago. You are one giant raging hormone at the moment. It will get better. The crazy feelings go away, I promise. You will start to feel like yourself again. As for the breastfeeding, it's definitely ok to do what works best for you. But if breastfeeding is something you want to do, you need to give yourself more time. It's takes a while for you and your baby to learn how to do it. Most women didn't grow up watching women breastfeed and so have no clue. And at 5 days pp you have barely started making milk. If you want to do it, keep at it, it will get easier over the next few weeks.

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The first couple weeks are the hardest. And then throw in breastfeeding difficulties, that doesn't help at all. Don't listen to other people's opinions on breastfeeding. It's hard. My daughter wouldn't latch on at the hospital and I decided to give her formula and the lactation consultant acted like I was the worse mother on the planet. But, she's an idiot, because feeding my baby was more important.

Don't feel guilty for not breastfeeding. Being happy for your baby is more important. And feeding her of course. She will get the right nutrients through formula that she needs. Just get yourself through the first few weeks. Take one day at a time and love on your sweet new baby and it'll all be fine. But if you feel this way for a while talk to your doctor.

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You don't have to feel bad or guilty about ANYTHING as long as your baby is fed and happy. My baby screamed and cried every time I tried to breastfeed him. The nurses at the hospital would keep telling me to keep trying and he would learn, but was literally latched for a total of 5 minutes the entire 3 days I was in the hospital. When I went home I gave that baby formula with no shame, and he was happy. He slept so well afterward. And he's still happy. I pumped for as long as I could, but eventually my supply was messed up, but I did the very best I could. And formula was much better than starving my baby in the hopes that he would figure it out.

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At least you are acknowledging how you feel! I felt like This after an emergency c section and failed breast feeding attempts. My daughter ended up on bottles and well below her birth weight ... She went from 6lb12 to 5lb4! But it gets better... Just keep talking, be open, don't be afraid to talk to someone about how you feel it's so common xxx

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Definitely do what feels right for you and your baby. I had nurses coming at me from all angles trying to show me how to get my baby to latch and assured me he was getting milk. I finally had to listen to my gut after a few days. He definitely wasn't eating enough. My milk just wasn't coming out like it was supposed to and he was getting frustrated and starving. It was extremely upsetting to realize, but I moved on knowing my baby would be healthy (and happier) getting what he needed from formula. 7 weeks later and he's growing like a healthy beast.

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It is normal to have the baby blues for a few weeks after giving birth. If it lasts longer than a few weeks you should see your dr. Do you have friends who are already moms that you could talk to? Some places even have groups where moms get together with their babies. As far as feedings go do what you feel is best.

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Postpartum hormones are NO JOKE! These feelings should pass in the next week or so, at 5DPP you are right in the thick of the most intense hormone burst (besides right after having your baby). Just do want you need to do to be as comfortable as possible. You and your baby are going to do just great no matter what you feed her! This will pass, hang in there.

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Hang in there mama - you just went through a major life event. Lots of big changes coming your way, but you can tackle them one step at a time. If you want to breastfeed, reach out to a trusted nurse or lactation consultant at the hospital - breastfeeding can be TOUGH at first. Take a deep breath, make the decisions that work best for you &  baby - and don't be too hard on yourself. You can do this❤

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Nobody tells you how hard having a baby can be. Society has a lot of pressures. Do what is best for mom and baby. If breastfeeding isn't working know that you have options. The way I see it is if your less stressed formula feeding or pumping then it's better for baby. Do what you feel is right and most of all talk to SUPPORTIVE people, and try to enjoy your first days as a mommy :)

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I gave up on breastfeeding after 4days. And had massive guilt and crying my heart out over it. But it was the best decision I ever made and looking back (4months later) I don't know why I got so upset. My baby wouldn't latch, I hadn't slept at all in over 72hours, my nipples were raw and I couldn't hand express more than 2ml and they kept taking him away to check his blood sugar because he hadn't had a proper feed. He is the perfect weight, sleeps through the night, he's not a sickly baby and despite being early he has met all his milestones. He is a happy content little boy and doesn't care how mammy feeds him.

What should i do?? :(

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