Family and In Laws
Ok so I am having In-Law issues & want some married Womens advice.
My DH is a wonderful man but when it comes to his Father & Step Mother I honestly don't know what to do. My Step Mother makes Cinderellas Step Mother look nice! Since my DH & I got married has made it clear that my DH & I should never have children due to his Speech Imparment & my genetically enharated learning disability. Both of us early in our marriage went to see a genetic Dr. & found out that my DH speech issue can not be passed along due to it being caused at birth & my learning disability has only a 10% chance of being carried on since my husband isn't a carrier for it.
This Dec 25 my DH & I will still be morning the loss of our son who passed on June 25 (umbliacord accident). When my son passed away my In Laws wanted nothing to do the arrangements, seeing him or attending the services!
A month later we were over at their house for dinner & my DH Step Mother (DMIL passed away 12 years ago) flat out said she prayed that we would not have any children & had set up & apt for my DH to have a viscetomy with the same Dr that did my FIL 15 years ago. When DH didn't go she left a 3 part message yelling that I should have taken my DH to the apt regardless of him having to work. She went on to say if we end up expecting again her & my FIL want nothing to do with the next baby just as they had nothing to do with our son. If it were up to her she would have call CPS & make sure they take the baby away for good! (Currently have messages saved)
So now you have the background here is my question. Apparently I am being ordered by my Step Mother In Law to attend my DH's family's Christmas Dinner & I don't want to. I emotionally don't feel up to it & I have just found out that none of his family even knew that we were expecting or that we even lost our son! His family is 200% military & Christmas is just about the only time his side gets together. I use to just go for the sake of his grandmother but she has since passed away this past July. All of them stay in town until January 3 so I know it won't be the only chance to see them just the other visits won't be in the Step Mothers House.
Any input please?
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