Worst wife ever?!?!?

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So when we found out we were pregnant it was four days after my mother passed away from barreling stage four brain cancer then at 12 weeks I was rushed to the er because I started hemmorageing real bad so much blood loss that my blood pressure dropped to 78 over 40 I was prepared to lose my baby but he is healthy and BIG!!!! I'm now 22 weeks well husband and I couldn't have sex for a while our doctor finally gave us the all clear to have sex we have a few times but honestly I'm not in the mood I don't even want to b touched I have a 20 month old and a 6 year old step son so my days r pretty full so when it comes time to do the deed I don't want to or I'm way too tired he gets upset cuz he thinks I can't stand him anymore I told him last night for some reason I'm just not feeling it and I horrible for not wanting to and should I just give him pity sex?

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I'm just so tired of him pressuring me and making me feel bad I can't even walk near him without him "mauling" me I do love him I will always love him but it ha started to feel more like another job 😔

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Maybe try just satisfying him, like giving oral instead of just giving him your body. It's important for the man not to feel replaced or of less importance than the baby and that can happen if you never have intimate time with him. Maybe give him a massage if he likes that or give him compliments when you see him so he knows your still into him. My husband and I struggled with this a few years ago, but not having sex becuase your not feeling it, can be more damaging than you realize. Because he is feeling it, he is into you (pregnant or not) and he wants to satisfy a need of his, with you. Best luck to you!!

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Right there with you. Pregnancy is fine but no sex drive. I know a man has his needs but I can't bring myself to do the deed if I'm not feelin it. I know it makes him feel like shit but I just don't know what to tell him anymore.

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Yea that's hard.. I'm in the same boat.. My pregnancy is fine but my sex drive is... gone! My husband doesn't understand cause with our first I had a high sex drive.. And this one nothing. I feel horrible but there's nothing I can do. I just can't get in the mood and I've been trying. He too thinks I don't love him and I'm not attracted to him anymore but it's really not the case. We have talked about it and I've expressed my feelings but it still doesn't help. All you can do is try to talk to him and see if he will understand if not try to have not pitty sex but just try to get yourself in the mood from time to time. Good luck momma! We all need it.

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That's a tough boat to be in. Maybe have an honest conversation that your sex drive has nothing to do with him. My husband and I have to plan what days we are having sex. Maybe try that. This way you can go through the day knowing you need to save energy for that.

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My husband was very nice during the first trimester. I had 0 sex drive and didn't want to be touched at all! Now that the 2nd trimester is here I want it all the time! But he was very understanding.  I just had to explain to him that it was the hormones and that there was no amount of coaxing that he could do to change that.

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I cant really get in the mood either, and im usually passed out b4 hubby comes to bed and then our 18month is in bed with us in the mornings. Need a romantic weekend away from my 2 kids because i find the less im doing it the less i even think about it :/

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