What should i do??

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So long story short, this guy that I dated got married after we broke up. We've remained pretty good friends, but his wife is AWFUL. She said some pretty nasty things about us when we were together.

Lately, he's been messaging saying how much he misses me, that he should still be with me etc. I love him dearly and it kills me that he's so unhappy. I wish he wouldn't have told me these things because he is married...no matter how much I dislike the woman he is married too, I'm not a homewrecker and I've made this abundantly clear. He know this and seems to respect it..I just don't know what to do. Should I tell his wife??? I mean, I owe no loyalty to her and he's screanshoted the conversations they have where she tells him he's a pos and that she doesn't love him...but if he ever tries to leave she won't sign the divorce papers.

I feel so bad for him, because he's an amaxig person and I hate he's going through this 😞

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Stay out of it. You don't want to be involved in something like that. And watch what you say to him in text or on fb because you never know if she'll get access to it and use it against him or you. If I were you I wouldn't talk to him at all.

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He did it to him self dont let yourself become the second girl. If hes truly unhappy he will get out of the suation him self

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No you shouldn't tell the wife you should end the friendship. It's obvious that he's crossed the line and there's no coming back from it. Save yourself the drama and move on

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I would tell his wife. I wouldn't want my husband to be doing the same without my knowledge. If he truly wanted to be with you then he wouldn't be married.

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Another reason why I don't let my husband be "friend "with his ex , was his choice to get marry , why you feel like you want fix his life ?

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Draw a line with him. Tell him it's not appropriate for him to be sharing. Those things with you. If his wife is saying untrue things, perhaps she's jealous and needs to do a better job of helping her feel secure. Let him take responsibility and accountability for his relationship.

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It is their drama... His drama... Don't get involved. He made the choice to marry her, he makes the choice to stay with her. He clearly is out for your attention. There is no reason for him to share texts or tell you "how terrible" she is except to gain your attention (which he may chat with other women as well), hear warm fuzzies, get his ego stroked, and potentially try to have something/someone on the side to feel good about himself for awhile. Keep in mind no one truly knows what goes on in a relationship except the two who are in it.  Sometimes people may not be fully honest with others in regards to their marriage.  I'm in a male dominated industry. Amazing how many men "are so unhappy" or "their wife is terrible." I personally chuckle and walk away... They tell other women for a reason. Women are nurturers... They need their egos stroked and want attention.... Attention they should only receive from their wife. My husband and I went through this for awhile this last year. I was dumbfounded as to some things he said to another female coworker he was spending time with while gone on business.
 "I treated him terribly." So... if that was true why is he still here? We do not have children. He still laid with me every night, made dinner with me, danced around the house with me... We argue like anyone else. Actions just didnt match up with his words. It caused a serious issue within our marriage. I see this with coworkers and female married friends. I have been that friend/female who gave that attention. You may not know her or like that she is married to him, walk away.... Find yourself other single friends to spend that time with. Don't be his emotional sound board cause really... he should emotionally bond with his wife, not you.  That is now her place and her relationship alone with him. Respect her... Respect yourself.
Time to let him go and wish him well.....

What should i do??

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