Mother in law advice.

Ok so I am posting anonymously because ok not if MIL is a member or not. But long story short she started a lot of drama the day after I had my c section because I didn't want visitors and her husband had planned on coming up there. She accused my husband of letting my family run the show and insulted my mother saying she disrespected them and manipulated when they could be in the room and when they could hold the baby which is simply not the case as everything she said was relayed messages from me and my husband. My main issue is the fact that she tried to take the most special time in mine and my husbands life and make it about them. I now don't even want to let her see my daughter but my husband thinks this far from when it happened ( a week ago) that I am just being petty and he wants us to be the bigger person. I did get a (piss poor in my opinion) apology but my main question is how would ladies handle this situation? I don't want to continue the rift she has built but I also am not willing to act in a way contrary to how I feel. Thanks in advance for the advice.