Mother

After getting her to understand how important it is, she started talking about the wedding shower at their house next year. She dropped the bomb that she's been inviting people to the shower that aren't invited to the wedding. No matter how many times I told her that you don't do that because it's rude, she said she'll invite whoever she wants because it's their party that they're hosting at their house. I can see that they're hosting it, but it's rude and makes my fiancé and I look greedy to have people at the gift party and not the wedding itself. I told her she's not in charge of the guest list but she said doesn't care, it's not my party. I do not know what to do anymore; I cannot give her any jobs without her making it about herself.