look how my bf talks to me :'(

So we got In a argument and he throws stuff and it's really annoying so I started telling him to please stop and being as nice as I could and I'm also a Virgin and scared to lose my virginity. He said "you won't fuck me so what will you do? You're boring and I'm getting tired of my left hand" and I told him I'll do anything else and he said "k let me eat your ass" and I'm so uncomfortable with that too and he slammed the door and woke everyone up (we live with his family) and he was cooking me food and this is the texts we exchanged. He meant "if we can't have sex" what should I do? I have no where else to go if we break up and I love him but he makes me hate him so much. My birthday is Wednesday and he isn't treating me like I want to be treated with my birthday coming up. I'm not even looking forward to it at all.