Atheist momma
I'm an atheist and while I am raising my child to believe whatever she wants by exposing her to different religions and such, I don't believe in god. This doesn't mean I hate your religion or disrespect it. Very much to the contrary. And even though I think you're wrong, there is something beautiful in faith when it doesn't mix with hate. I have a very health respect for people of faith and I actually come from a relatively religious family. What I cannot stand are the stereotypes of atheists, especially as parents. My husband and I have only told a select few that we don't believe in god because of this very thing. People assume that we can't be good people or good parents. That we somehow must be completely immoral and that any progressive or liberal way of thinking is because we don't believe in god.
The fact is, I am actually very respectful and giving. I see a homeless man and I help. I see someone in need and I help. I never brag about it or post about it because I think it makes it seem like I'm doing it for recognition. I'm a silent do-gooder. I fight for others and I have liberal views because I have that caring tendency. And you know what? I'm a damn good mom, too. All I want is for my daughter to grow up happy, healthy, and kind. Does that sound like an immoral person to you?
The other thing that annoys me somewhat less than the stereotyping is that when I'm going through a hard time (miscarriage/loss/etc), people's go-to response when I ask for advice or support is to "give it to god" or "its gods plan". While I understand that that idea brings Christians much needed comfort, it just frustrates me. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the sentiment. I never say anything but thank you. ...But the sheer amount of "praise Jesus" when it comes to motherhood is a little overwhelming. While going hrough 67.5 hours of labor, my religious family prayed over me - something that just made me feel more uncomfortable. When I finally had my daughter, they were saying how strong their god is. Uh. Hello! I just went through agonizing labor for days and had emergency surgery, you think I can get some recognition??
Like I said, I know everyone means well but sometimes it's just frustrating. I don't expect anyone to stop, I suppose I'm just ranting as us pregnant ladies sometimes do. And yes. I am thankful for being pregnant especially when I have PCOS... But I am pregnant because of our dedication to tracking my fertility like whoa. Not because god sprinkled baby dust over my lady bits. Lol! ...That was a joke. I certainly mean no offense. Like I said, just ranting a little. I hope people of faith will understand that.
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