Boyfriend or Baby??

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So I'm a younger teen I still live with my mom and she supports me.. recently I found out I was pregnant.. I as the girl I am are just not okay with abortions I knew I could raise my baby and I did not want one.. my mom came up to me and told me that I had to chose the baby or my boyfriend😩😩 if I get the abortion I can stay with my boyfriend but if I don't I have to say goodbye to my bestfriend/boyfriend!! As much as I want this baby I don't want to have a baby without its father is it wrong of me to chose my boyfriend?

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Honestly, it's your mother that's wrong for making you choose.

And legally, if that baby is his, she has no way of keeping him away from it!

So you don't have to choose lovely. If you want to keep your baby, keep it. She can't stop him seeing the baby, and therefore seeing you too!

If you choose the other option, it should be because YOU want to. Not because your mother is trying to scare you out of seeing your BF. 
No one has the right to try and push something as big as that on you.

Is there someone else who can support you during this time?? I think you need to talk to someone other than your mum about this.

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If he's the father, she can't keep him away from his child. She's fucked up.

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Legally she can't force your boyfriend out of the picture if you do keep the baby. He has rights to the baby too. He'll still be around in one way or another.
Your mother probably knows this but just wants to trick you into getting an abortion.
Even though you're clearly very young the choice is yours. But you need to think realistically. If you do keep this baby, are you ready to give up so much of your personal freedom to raise him/her? Do you think you'll still be able to finish school? Think about how your baby deserves to live in a stable, healthy home. 
You need to think of ALL the possibilities and outcome of both choices. 
Good luck

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It's wrong for your mother to give you that ultimatum like that, but I can see where she is coming from in a way. If you want the baby, then keep the baby. Your mother cannot legally keep him from being in the baby's life.

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Woah.

Ok, that's not on.

I'm extremely pro-choice; you can choose to do whatever you want, and whatever is right for you; but your mother has no right to force you into a choice like that.

If you CHOOSE to have an abortion, that's one thing, but no-one should EVER be forced like that using emotional blackmail! It has to be YOUR CHOICE.

Go to a clinic like Planned Parenthood (US) or an NHS clinic (UK), and explain your situation; there should be a councellor there who can help explain you rights, your options, and help you deal
with your mother.

Abortion is a pregnant woman's choice, and no-one else's! It is not there to be abused by family members or partners!

Good luck, chuck xxx

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Well, you definitely shouldn't have an abortion if you don't want one, and it is very odd for your mom to put it that way. That being said, moms are pretty good judges of boyfriends, and teens are pretty bad judges of boyfriends. So, if you are having the baby solely because you think that's going to be a happily ever after situation, I encourage you to really focus and plan for a life in which a) you will be taking care of this child w/o the guy, and b) will probably rely heavily on your mom, so even if you don't totally obey her ultimatum, I encourage you to try and keep the best possible relationship you can with her.

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Search for shelters and pregnancy clinics ur not alone and she can't make u choose u have people who can help you

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She can't legally keep him from seeing the child. I'm not exactly sure of your age, but when you say younger I think 13-15 either way your mom should've thought about all the possibilities before she allowed you to have a boyfriend. If she allowed you to date before she shouldn't try to exile him from you guys life because she is upset. When parents do stuff like this it's because of their own personal disappointment and has nothing to do with him being around. I personally would never choose anyone over my child, but you shouldn't have to choose period. Those are very childish tactics on her part because she's only doing it because she knows that young girls don't know any better. What if she still won't allow you to see him after the abortion(more than likely will happen)? You would end up without your baby and without your boyfriend, so think hard about what she's attempting to do.

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This will be the hardest choice of your life honey. You need to look at it as more of a choice between your babies life or yours. Please don't take this harshly, I'm only trying to give you the best advice, but if you are really having a hard time choosing between a young teenage relationship and a child's life you aren't at the best maturity level to be bringing a new life into this world. Being as your not for abortions, please consider adoption. There are many extremely deserving couples (both straight and gay) that would happily welcome your sweet angle into their family. It's a very selfless loving decision to make but also not an easy one. Most importantly this decision is a PERMANENT one. If you keep your baby or not you are bringing a new life into this world. Please think long and hard. Much love and good vibes to you sweetheart what ever you decide I wish you the best of luck ❤️

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Keep the baby. You didn't mention your boyfriends age. If he is over legal age then i agree with her. If not, dont tell your mom,  but tell your bf and his mom that this is not your will and have them pursue visitation through the courts. Or, have your bf (and possibly his parents depending on that situation) have a talk with your mom one on one and show they're taking responsibility. Right now she's just pissed and is blaming him,  that might change over time. You can't undo an abortion. But down the road, if you and your bf are meant for each other, when you're old enough you can ditch your mom and go with your child and be with your boyfriend.

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