A Woman Scorned and A Woman Saved!
My soon to be ex-husband and I have only been married 19 months and he cheated constantly. Before I go into this story, I want you to know that his actions did not always reflect his heart. He was a caring and loving man. He could be the sweetest at times. He had the type of personality that could draw anyone in! He was so captivating and full of life and I truly believe he wasn't ready for a life of commitment and monogamy which is why his infidelity was at an all time high. He cheated ALOT! He didn't know that his SM accounted was connected to our computer so everything he did I had access to see!! I got more than I bargained for. He left and moved in with another woman and I took him back. He met women in my car and I later found out, he hit on women and made sexual advances on social media, and he would go out and stay out all night. He only did it because I kept taking him back. I was guilty for wanting my marriage to work because I had taken those vows before God. He wouldn't take me out on dates even when I offered to pay because I wanted to do the things husbands and wives do. He didn't want me to do much of anything. I am a homebody so I don't club or hangout every weekend all night. I may go somewhere every now and then but because I'm a teacher, I'm exhausted from the work week and want my weekends to be down time for relaxation.
He use to complain about me coming home wanting to lay down before cooking dinner. The rejection I received from him damaged my self esteem to the point where I didn't see why anybody wanted to be with me. I started to feel like I didn't deserve marriage and family. I suffered two miscarriages, one while he was with the other woman, and the other while he was out.
The last time we split up was in February 2017 when I found out he cheated on Super Bowl Sunday. We were buying a house so I packed some of my things and went to my mom's house. On the way to work a couple of mornings later, I saw a strange car in my driveway. Yes, it's still my driveway because I was still paying the mortgage as I always have! I didn't tell him I was outside so when I stuck the key in the door, he tried to stop me from twisting it but he couldn't. I got in the house and there was a different woman in my bedroom. I put her ass out and as he was throwing his bitch fit about what I had done, I called and had everything disconnected (his cell phone too). I mean I was paying all of the bills!
He broadcasted their relationship all over SM and then got into some trouble. Now he's calling and texting wanting to work out our marriage. Poor baby!! Some times sorry can come a little too late. I love him but not in that way anymore and now he's trying to play this role of "I'm coming home because that's where I'm suppose to be"!!Nah!! This house is MINES and you are NOT welcomed here!!
I said that to say this: sometimes it's the men who aren't ready to settle down but know that they have a great woman and don't want to risk losing her. So to secure his treasure he secures his position! Not knowing that marriage won't keep a person!! I have always been the type to swear against messing with married men because I've always dreamt about being a wife.
A friend of mines carried on an affair with a married man for over 5 years and it broke my heart because of what I was dealing with in my marriage! After I caught that woman in my bedroom and she knew we were married and she still came back and moved him in, I learned that sluts like that deserve everything she gets in life!
I was bitter at first and wanted to ruin as many marriages as I could because I felt like my marriage wasn't respected so why respect others but I had to think about that choice....I mean I know how hurtful it was to me so why would I inflict that pain on some other poor woman? I wanted to mess up a happy home because mines had been destroyed but the only person to fault was not the other women but MYHUSBAND! They didn't take vows, HE DID!! My question is why do I feel guilty for wanting to move on with my life? He has a girlfriend but tells me he doesn't want her. I know he's only lying. He only comes back when he needs something or needs me financially. Why do I feel obligated to make sure he is okay when he clearly doesn't care about all I have been through?? I want the courage to say I have the right to date again!!
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