#Update Im Fucking Livid! 😡😡😡😡😒
(this is a really really long one)
O.M.G.Im so furious right now, im shaking!
so, my s/o & i share a car (its our car, if we ever separate, the car stays with me) & recently i just got him a job at Aecon. (the biggest construction company in canada)
Im in school part-time & a SAHM. (which i love)
My s/o works monday-friday sometimes saturday.
Because we only have one car i have to wake up a little earlier in the morning so he can go work & i can bring the children to school.
My dad decided to help by giving me his car in the mornings, so now my s/o drops me to my dads house in the morning, i have my own set of keys so i get my dads car & have it till' after the kids gets picked up from school which is at 3:15 & 3:20 & my dad has work for 4:15; which is kind of a tight window of time but i make it work just so my s/o can have the car all day at work.
Heres where my issue starts!
my fil decides one day to get drunk and drive! Ended up drive thru R.I.D.E (a police check at random points in the city usually on weekends when they know people are drinking and partying or holidays & they do a quick check and send you on your way) they had suspicions & gave him a breathalyzer he failed...got arrested, charged, car impounded & licence suspended!
After my s/o got his new job with the company his father asked him for a ride here and there to work, ofcourse the person i am im always here to help and make things work!
instead of waking up at 6am i have to be up by 5am because he has to drop me to my dads car and then bring his dad to work before he goes to work.
i was okay till' the ungratefulness & selfishness started!
here & there turned into everyday. (I was still fine, i understand)
I had a scheduled doctors appointment cause i got really really sick last Thursday ended up in the hospital too!
My follow up appt. was monday at 2; my s/o knew about this appt. from the past thursday while i was at hospital.
Monday is his day off due to rain which we knew about so thats why i made it monday; his job was to get the kids from school cause my appointment would run late & i would need to go straight to my dad so, he can get to work on time.
My s/o says he has to go pay his bill for the union & i said alright he left at 11am.
im at my doctors appt. & at 2:45pm he messages me that he cannot get the kids cos the line is longer than he thought. im sitting there wondering you left at 11am HOW ?
he says he had to get his dad from work early and his dad had to stop somewhere randomly & pay his bill & how that line was long and took up time...wtf?
so, ofcourse i had to get up and leave my appt. never did my urine or blood or nothing cos had to fly to get the kids & rush to my dads.
i was pissed !
fast forward to today, its his second day off due to rain (its raining a lot in toronto this weekend lol)
he wakes up & leaves to bring his dad to work (who has now relocated to the west end of toronto for work so, the past two days i've been waking up at now 4AM! instead of 5am!) comes home and brings the kids to school. never mentions he has stuff to do at all & says he'll be back just now.
Before he leaves to bring the kids to school, i ask for food from this breakfast place cos i felt awful this morning, im hot with a fever & im starving!
he says okay!
i hadn't seen him since 8:30am
i ask him where he is cause its 9:15am and im hungry and everything is close by, he says his father called him and said he had to go pick him up early, so hes on his way there...(But wheres my food tho?)
in my head im like are you fucking kiddin' me? but i said Okay bring me the food & then go...He says he can't cause hes already far from there, already on the way to his dads workplace & hes sorry.
is sorry gonna feed me? And fix this headache ? no. but okay, ill eat the sorry.
Then! our sons school called saying our son is grumpy & he forgot his lunch at home i was like oh crap! okay ill send his dad (since i don't have my dads car & my s/o is suppose to be home, with me!!!)
i msg him & hes literally so upset & says well hes in the west (about 30mins away) & he'll see what he can do...WHAT DO YOU MEAN!!?
i told him he had to go cause he never brought me to get dads car, so i can't get there or i would !
(If your still reading thanks, it just gets worse lols)
i blew the fuck up ya'll! i've been asking God for patience & hes blessed me with some but it ran out today.
hes gonna message me & say AND I QUOTE ! "Thats the duties of a stay at home mom cooking, cleaning & attending the children" my dude...HOW ?? when you have the car ! HOW !
& he said that because i brought up how tired i am of me always going out my way & i can't even get to stay at my scheduled appt. booked days in advance & to pee in a fucking cup without him dropping the ball!
im livid !
i have to wake up @ 4am everyday, plus study & take care of the children.
i missed my nephews bday party cause my fil had to go grocery shopping & he came back home late!
my dad is going out his way & can't go no where in the day since i have the car & i feel really bad cause hes only trying to help but i know he wants to go places !
i can't even ask for food when im sick cause thats not a priority, when his dad is done work at any moment im screwed.
Our child needs his lunch & its a problem cause hes "busy" with his dad in the west & will see what he can do!!??
I just feel unappreciated.
I think hes being ungrateful & very disrespectful.
my SAHM duties doesn't involve my fil! Im not his mom !
when he said that my blood boiled.
i honestly don't know what to do, i was sooo upset i started to cry literally, thinking like who leaves there sick loved one at home waiting for you to bring home food & you don't show up...where is this okay!?
i don't even ask for much! i try to work around everybody but no one wants to work around me & when i get upset; im the horrible one like what in the blue unicorn fuck is my sahm duties have to do with catering to you and your dads agenda ???
I honestly feel like i should shut everything down for next weeks work week.
if he can't do the things he suppose to do & show any appreciation towards me & all i do; he can get to & from work by getting dropped off & picked up.
I don't want to be a bitch, but im fed up.
I would never do this to him or anyone, so its hard for me wrap my head around the fact that hes being selfish, cause thats what it boils down to...at least thats what i think...
what would you guys do? cause im really pissed & maybe my idea is a tad bit drastic...?!
& thanks for who ever had time to read this long ass story & comment trust me it means sooo much!
Update!
- OMG! so ofcourse i did what i said i was going to do for this week...it went horrible he got upset and went into the livingroom to SLEEP there & has been there since sunday night lols.
Today was going to be my last day stopping my "protest" & he knew & apparently has come to terms with his selfish actions.
LADIES, i forgot to sleep with the car keys (which i did cos i don't trust his ass)
Why did i wake up at 6am go in the livingroom & hes gone !!
I called him freaking out! Like where are you!! & he said he dropped his dad to work & is now on his way to work...
So, im like WHAT!?? i have to get my fathers car today you never woke me up or anything!
so, as i have my panic attack this morning at 6am, i realize he actually left me home with the kids and no car to take them to school.
I had to ask my upstairs neighbor to keep an eye on my sleeping kids while i uber (waste money) to my dads to get the car so the kids can go to school...
i legit was crying & yelling to myself in the house!!!
& you know what he says ! (Cause he thinks im stupid) "everything i do is wrong to you, you were sleeping so peacefully i never wanted to wake you up. Just call your dad and ask him to come get you guys" MY DUDE. WHAT??!
im so offended that he'd even say that cos my dad finished work @ 2am! (Theres a reason i have my set of keys) but really! so, because hes tired from work i should just not wake him up, because "he seemed so tired"
so, i decided that i wasn't going to stress, i calmed my attack down & now im going to get even! 👏🏽😡
we had ordered two seperate cakes for our mothers (He was upset that i got my mom a cake because thats more "money" & his mother isnt talking to him right now & i dislike her with a passion & vice versa.)
So....I cancelled his order this morning & rescheduled the pick up for saturday @ 11am LOL after my surgery which is scheduled for 10am! So hes gonna get there and theres no cake & i will be getting my kids & heading to my mothers house for our early mothers day celebration as planned.
im suppose to be meeting him at around 6pm, but i'll be back at 8pm on purpose...then ill say sorry. (Cause that fixes everything)
Oh & all of next week, i will be extending him not driving & WILL be sleeping with the keys every night cause this is ridiculous he hasn't learned nada!, lets be honest he wasn't doing this outta love or compassion this was him leaving, getting his dad & leaving me on my own knowing i had already stated that friday is a regular 6am day. So much for that now!
Im going to have to be in idgaf mode for another week & this time im going to be even more of a savage because thats how some people learn when they experience it.
Thanks for all the support ladies ! Its truly appreciated !
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