What's the hardest part about being a mom for you?

Sorry if im ranting but i cant talk to anyone about it!!

For me, it's watching other moms be shitty to their children. My dd is 9 months old and my nephew is 5 months old. I love my SIL to death. But he has HORRIBLE silent reflux which my daughter suffered from as well. We've had her on medication since it was diagnosed and regularly give her oatmeal because her doctor recommended it for us.

She still spits up but within two days of starting the meds she became a whole new baby. Smiley, happy, and so wonderful compared to the screaming, upset baby that she was prior to that when it flared up. I would give anything to go back in time and get her on medicine sooner.

My SIL has known about his reflux for two months and refuses to put him on meds and refuses to give him oatmeal because he is ebf and it goes against her "idea" of perfect. She's now giving him avocado but refuses oatmeal even though she is fully aware of the fact that it would help. She's given no explanation at all. She lives 3 hours away so we don't see her too often. But every single time I have seen him he has cried in agony over the pain from reflux, pain cries which I have heard before and they break my heart that she won't do anything. Her husband obviously wants to, but won't fight her on it. (Plus he's over 5 months old and still in a rickety 54 year old bassinet that you can knock over with the slightest breeze and she won't take him out of it. He knows how to roll and does so all the time. But she says "maybe this month we will, I'm not sure." So I pray to God he doesn't fall out before they decide to move him to his crib)

I also have a friend who got pregnant within days of me giving birth and has had a tendency to do whatever I do, since we were kids. Now she has an almost 3 week old son who she refused to take care of overnight while her husband was home for paternity leave, and then directly after he went back to work began making her grandmother, who has failing health, live with her to take care of him so that she can sleep at night. Her poor grandmother is made to stay up until 1 or 2am with him while my friend goes to sleep around 7 or 8pm and then she takes her "shift" with him.

My daughter is named after my grandmother but I cannot imagine making her lose sleep for my daughter. She raised her children and my friend as well, and now she's made to take care of her great grandson, too.

I know I'm ranting and I am by far not a perfect mother. But, I can guarantee that if there is anything I can do to stop my daughters pain, I'll do it. And if she needs me, I can promise I will be there for her.

Please forgive me if I seem like a total bitch. I just feel like I'm about to scream! 😞😢