I'm so irritated

So I woke up at 6 this morning with my little one who is 5 months old getting mad and my awake husband waking me up to grab the lo when I got him I asked my husband to change his diaper since he was already awake and playing on his phone then I fell back asleep only to wake up a few hours later and me and my bedding being soaked because my husband didn't change my sons diaper and it was so full it was leaking out everywhere... so I'm pissed and can't even shower because I have to do laundry because he sure as fuck doesn't.. and now I have to wash all the bedding. And he's pissed off because I'm mad at him and he starts yelling pulling this "I'm sorry" but not really sorry just going off about how now he's going to have a bad day at work and I'm even more upset because he's pulling this. And it's not like I don't work too. I go to work pick up my son for the babysitters then deal with house work while trying to calm a screaming baby while he gets off work and sits outside and smokes cigars and eating tv on his phone or hangings out in the bath tub and relaxes while he never gives me that chance then when I get mad at him he just gets defensive and yells I'm sorry your life is so hard and doesn't ever change....