Irrelevant Boys🙃

alex

strap in cause this is gonna be a long one haha.

okay so when i was in fifth grade i met this boy and we became really good friends. a lot of people thought we were dating, and i think he had a crush on me at some point. let's call him A. we were really close and made so many memories, but when i started middle school (seventh grade, where i'm from), he completely stopped talking to me. like, he legit wouldn't even look at me. so i went up to him and asked "what's your problem??" (rookie mistake, i know.) and he acted like nothing was wrong between us. but it really hurt me when he stopped talking to me, because he meant so much to me. after that, it was really awkward between us for all of seventh grade. luckily, we had no classes together.

but he still would sometimes talk to me when he had no one else to talk to...

a few weeks before eighth grade starts, i add one of A's friends on Snapchat. while A and his friend are at a sleepover together, A's friend blocks me on Snapchat. pretty sure it's because of A.

so school starts up, and we have lots of classes together, AND ride a bus to the high school for a class together🙄. he starts talking to me and it was just like old times, but i was still cautious around him. i just assumed that he had changed.

he hadn't.

i had; my acne cleared up (it was REALLY bad in 5-7th grade), my hair was longer, i genuinely became a cooler person.

it started to seem that he was only talking to me because i had become prettier.

on the bus, he made fun of TWO of my friends, RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME. that's when i realized he hadn't actually changed.

at the beginning of the school year, when a bunch of eighth and ninth graders were getting on the bus to the high school, a kid that i knew for years asked me what class i was coming to the high school for, i opened my mouth to speak, but A interrupts me and says "she's smarter than us, she's a grade above us in math". he does the same thing for another kid I've known for years. and both kids just nod like, "I know her and i know what math class she's in??". he acts like i can't speak for myself.

one of his friends, a different one, adds me on Snapchat & we start a streak. after three days, while A and his friend were riding the bus to some XC thing, his friend unadds me.

i know i sound petty, but this is so much more than two people on snapchat.

he is nice to me, and makes conversation with me...

when no one is around to see him talking to me.

another red flag.

so my friends made this group Wattpad page in seventh grade, and one of my classmates kept repeatedly hacking it. my friends got it back, drama over.

i recently learned that A had helped that classmate hack it multiple times. the hacking made my friends so sad and so upset, so knowing that he had done that to them, bothered me even more.

also, he consistently hits on those friends that he tormented.

so to sum up, he's a little brat that thinks he can walk in and out of my life as he pleases, talks crap about all my friends, is nice to my face but talks crap about ME behind my back, and thinks i'm too weak to speak for myself.

now, any of these things alone are not really something to go on a full-on rant about, but put together, it's just not okay.

so here's the question: do i call him out on it? or should i cut him out of my life like he did to me a year ago?

thank you so much for reading all of this, i just needed to vent and to get some advice.

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