Do the holidays stress anyone else out!?!😩😩😢😰

I always get super stressed this time of year and this year is way worse because my husband started traveling for work and i go with him. We originally weren’t gonna get to go home for thanksgiving but now we are. I was kinda relieved that we weren’t gonna have to (i know that sounds bad but ill explain) but now we are trying to cram both of our families get togethers in while were home. His family lives like 5 miles from our house but mine lives almost an hour away. It seems like my family always gets put on the back burner and we always make plans with them after we know what my husbands side is doing. However, they have always had their thanksgiving meal at noon on the actual day since forever and long before my husband and i got together so i don’t feel right asking them to change plans so that my family feels like they are a priority too. His family is a lot bigger than mine, at my sides get togethers its just my parents my two sisters and their husbands and myself and husband. Anyway the point is, my side is wanting to do thanksgiving like 2 hours after his family’s and I’m a chef so i do most of the cooking for my side, and also i don’t want two huge meals back to back like that its no where near as enjoyable and we have to rush around to get there on time.. I’m just super stressed about it cause my family thinks my husband and i care about his family more than mine is what it boils down to...sorry this was so long I dont mean to sound ungrateful or anything like that but i just needed to rant cause of course no one seems to understand when i ask to spread things out a little further cause i feel like i get spread so freaking thin😢