New Dad freak out? Or is he done? (Long sorry but please help) *update*

I’m 26 weeks. We got pregnant on purpose. We have been married for 10 yrs. financially stable. Own our own house. We’ve had problems in the past but I thought we were ok now...

At 10weeks he started messaging some random chick on snap chat who he didn’t know who apparently just posts porn (didn’t know this was a thing, don’t do snap chat) I freaked out. He freaked out. He started talking about how he couldn’t do this, that he’d support the baby and me financially but that was it. He started sleeping in another room. We went to counseling. Things got better. He has finally admitted that he may suffer from depression and that he needs individual counseling. We were going to by a hand gun ( we both enjoy shooting) he said he doesn’t think it’s a good idea for him to own a gun right now. We stopped going to counseling because of his work schedule. Work has been very stressful for him but he got a big promotion that he’s wanted on Wednesday. He’s been in a funk last two weeks but tonight...

We’re at my parents house and he started drinking. He was playing clue with my sisters and sister’s boyfriend. He started getting drunk, he kept saying fuck. No one else was drinking as much. My aunt and uncle were over too. Just as they are leaving I realize how drunk he is. Several people are coming in town because my baby shower is tomorrow. My dad is hosting something at the house while my sisters are throwing the shower at a restaurant. He wanted to call his brother to make sure he came to my dads house, it was almost 11 at night. I said do you think that’s a good idea? My husband told me “just give me the fucking number” I had to give it to him 5 times because his drunk self was struggling to dial. I offered to dial for him and he told me he didn’t trust me. He told me he was going to sleep down stairs. My sisters are now aware that somethings up. My little sister tried to go talk to him, she came back up and said he’s going to sleep down stairs. I said fine. And told her to just let it be.

I have to go down stairs for something but planned on completely avoiding husband but he stopped me in the hall to tell he was going to volunteer for a new assignment at work that was going to take him away from me a lot. And then he said “I’m telling you this to hurt you.” (Honestly I don’t care about the job. I just care that he wants to hurt me. I don’t understand) I ask husband why he’s so mad at me and he tells me that his family “cannot live up to my expectations”. I ask him what are my expectations and he won’t answer. My dad decides to go down stairs, husband comes back up shortly after obviously been crying.

He comes in the room and says “don’t touch me” but gets into bed. He starts crying again saying that he was stupid to think he could be happy having a family. He’ll give me whatever money I want he doesn’t care. He sits there crying calling himself a moron and stupid. If I try to speak he tells me to shut up so I just roll over.

I laid next to my still drunk crying husband, feeling my little one kick in my stomach, and kept thinking why is this happening?

I love him. I believe in him. I believe in us. But I won’t put my child through this heart ache. The Shower is tomorrow. We’re supposed to take family photos tomorrow with my family. We just started putting the nursery together. I just don’t know...

I’m feeling so lost.

***Update***

He woke up apologetic and embarrassed not remembering half of what happened. He’s admitted he needs counseling. He recognizes that he is having a hard time dealing with the demons he has from his own family drama.

Thank you to everyone who responded. I appreciate you all so much.