Doula And Boyfriend Disrespect Me In Labor Room?

Some opinions please?

Firstly, I’ve stopped stressing about it because my midwife noticed my breathing and heart rate kept dropping.. also the baby was getting a bit anxious as well. So please keep all mean comments to yourselves. I’m currently still in delivery room. If you respond please let it be in the most respectful way. Please.

Okay so, my doula And boyfriend met a week ago.. and we all found out i was being induced at 39 weeks.. fast forward to this day because i thought we only had regular relationships when it came to all three of us. She was my support as was he. Anyways, last night we settled into the rooms, they both helped and also I wanted to add I have her here to support me when I need her to and to advocate for me when i can’t. I trust my boyfriend to do these things but i also wanted to make sure.. he tends to forget important things or be alittle passive when it comes to things that i think mean a lot. Anyways, initially i was matched with her because of my views on natural, unassisted and lotus birth. Yesterday was a weird day for me. I was super ready to be induced but then i got to the hospital and my nerves went to shit. So i was having to try to calm myself. She wasn’t really helping as she was really focused on conversing with him. Okay i thought nothing of it. She would give really short advice and then back to him. He was focused on making the room what i wanted though.. kudos to him. Still I’m not thinking too much. Then my boyfriend starts to ramble on about eating cookies.. now the convo got like he wasn’t just talking about cookies.. like he’s like ‘yeah I been eating cookies for a looong time.’ Etc, shit like the convo was really weird. I still paid no mind to it really and then she tells him before she leaves she was going to write her number down for him.. so now I’m Immediately like ‘Oh no, it’s fine he can use my phone he has access or i might send it to him myself via text if i can’t function’.. she insisted again. I DECLINED AGAIN. This happened multiple times back to back. So now I’m thinking wtf. My midwife comes in and I’m talking to her, Time has went pass.. and i hear my doula whispering to him, ‘what’s your number’.. i clearly made it clear i was uncomfortable with this and about it down 10 mins ago. She waited until i was distracted to get his number. I overheard this and i was ‘wow, i said i would give it to him. What’s the problem.’ And she starts to laugh and trying to explain herself.. I just felt like i was already trying to gather myself and then on top of this you disrespected me. I couldn’t even finish convo with midwife. I got up to the bathroom and closed the door on her face. And guess what.. he still gave his number. She left. The midwife tells my boyfriend to make sure I’m drinking water during breaks and guess what.. he did not buy occasionally, he sat in the corner on his phone.. doing what. Idk, texting who.. idk. So now a million things are running through my head. Like it hadn’t occurred to me how interested she seemed in him.. say we were talking once and i cut him off because we had that convo before she came and she cut me off to hear what he had to say.. it was about something he and I had done. And none of this had dawned on me. So now I’m like what were you persistent to get his number.. why did he give it to her when i said no and showed i was uncomfortable. There was no point. He has all access to my phone to call her if i needed her. Again i asked him last night and he says he doesn’t know why he gave it to her. He doesn’t know why. Like i feel like what I said right then in there should have been respected and it wasn’t. Then there isn’t nothing i can do about it because she has his number. Smh so now I’m uncomfortable. I don’t want her here anymore. I felt that was inappropriate! She is with a program that she’s MY doula. She’s not a family doula. But now after that i don’t feel respected in my birthing room and i also don’t feel respected by him. I had to tell him to get off of his phone and to pay me some attention. He did. But now I’m just stuck in my head. Why TODAY, our birthing day out of all days. Something like this happened before where completely disrespected my voice over another female. I’m HURT. I cried all night. I wanted to send him home. I wanted to be alone until i started pushing at least. My birth plan went out the window when they disrespected me and didn’t listen to me. They heard each other over me. And then he’s on his phone like this isn’t supposed to be one of the best days of our life. Somebody help me. What to do. Who to send home. Should I make a complaint with the boss. I’m trying to allow him to be a father but it’s killing me because why do that to me right now! Why! Then he always tries to play victim but he’s 31 and he knows right from wrong. He flirts and he doesn’t think i see it. I never say shit because I’m like if anyone wants him, they would be very dissatisfied in the bedroom.. and I’m pretty sure I’m the best thing he’s had. 🤷🏽‍♀️ he begged me for a relationship, he begged for a baby all of this and yet he fucks up and always have to chalk it up to he’s sorry, he wasn’t thinking or he didn’t mean it like that.