submissives

so im not particularly submissive, im more of a switch and just kinda up for whatever makes sense w my partner.

but i hear mainly women, esp on here, identifying as completely submissive.

if youre submissive does that mean you dont take control over ANYTHING in bed?

he tells you to suck his dick? you do it.

he positions you however he wants and fucks you, and you just take it.

he goes down on you, you take it.

he dictates where the cum goes.

i feel like any time ive been with someone that wanted to be more dominant, i felt like a lazy lover by just going along with whatever they were instigating. like i wasnt contributing and making the sex exciting by doing things specifically to them and guiding what we were doing.

im not hating on ya know, accepting pleasure and allowing someone to take the reigns. but do you feel like as a submissive youre just kinda.....there?