I love my husband but I don’t love his mom or his dad. Honestly I married into a complicated situation that would honestly be easier if his parents were different (my husband has 2 sons, each with different moms/different marriages), so it’s so tough being a stepmom. Like for real. My husband and I had a daughter together and she’s amazing. But I get jealous of like my sisters in laws. Because they are just like the kind I would love to have. My husband’s mom only talks about the same topics over and over so I usually know what she’s going to say before she says it. I know she thinks I’m not good enough for her son and the topics she talks about are her issues with her ex husband which the marriage ended 20+ years ago and she remarried not long after she was divorced. Happily too. It’s exhausting and I don’t like to spend time with her because sometimes she throws curve balls and gets argumentative and anything I say gets twisted around into something I didn’t say.

Couple years ago we found out my husband’s dad isn’t his biological dad. And his “dad” he’s known since birth married one of his ex wives Mom so it’s like we can’t get away from the crazy.

I can tell my husband has some of these traits he’s picked up from just being around that kind of interaction. I don’t want my daughter to really spend time with his mom because I don’t even like how she handles things with his sons. She’s like way too extreme loosey goosey not like the normal Grandma type. Plus she smokes. And we don’t. I don’t like the kids to be around that.

I just need to vent because it’s just like last night I’m sitting in the ER because my husband’s oldest son had a bad reaction to the flu going around so we were there. And somehow she makes the conversation about her breakup 20+ years ago. I mean I’m exhausted and my moms at home with my daughter who woke up and the other son is sleeping because it’s so late.

It’s like I don’t want to talk about your breakup. Or how he cheated on you. And how while you were married you took a break because you were living on base and he cheated on you so you decided to have a relationship and get pregnant with some other dude and then go back to your husband who raises this guys kid.

So over it. We have enough drama dealing with the boys moms. I don’t need her bitter resentment bleeding over into everything.