My family and SO trigger me deliberately...

They always do stuff knowing I’ll get mad. They provoke me constantly, critique me, make fun or comments of stuff I do. Then they wonder why react the way I do.

I’m not a bad person, I’m nice to them, but when they make me angry I have to react the way I do.

I don’t know a gray zone. I either respond passively or aggressively. And they complain with both.

Then they get at me. I don’t know what to do with them anymore.