PREFACE: When I found out I was pregnant, I was so scared. I’m young but not too young (20) I was unemployed at the time and I was getting ready to go back to college for my second year. I’m also still living at my parents house, so telling them was going to be a huge deal.

Also my older sister and I have an age gap of a little over 5 years. She and I had very different experiences growing up, because she was always overweight and made fun of in school and I never really had problems with bullies or mean kids. Because of this she has some major confidence issues and I feel like she makes up for it by coming off as a tough “idgaf” or “The world owes me something” kinda of person.

The first person I decided to tell after my boyfriend was my older sister. I was the first person she told when she found out she was pregnant, and I didnt tell a soul, because I knew it’s not my news or business to tell. I called her crying because I was so scared, and asked her for advice on how I should tell my parents. At the time she comforted me and told me that they would accept it and gave me some good advice.

When I told my parents, she ended up coming over to “help” me tell them. Thinking back on it now, she probably did it to be nosey. Anyways, everything went really well. My parents were actually kind of excited. My boyfriend and I decided that we were not going to tell anyone about the pregnancy until the 12 week mark. We told everyone else, including my sister, to please keep our secret.

A few weeks pasted and I found out she had been telling all of her close friends (some of them, I don’t even know) and her boyfriends family that I was pregnant. People were coming up and congratulating me at family events, and at one point my sister blurted out that i was pregnant to one of her friends while I was sitting right next to her. She started telling her the story that I called her first and I was “bawling”, almost making fun of how scared I was. Her friend could see that I was uncomfortable and asked me “so is this pregnancy a good thing?” I felt so belittled and embarrassed.

I told her after that, to stop telling people and she said “oh no, she’s the only person I’ve told” when I knew damn well that wasnt true.

After we announced the pregnancy, every time the topic would come up on how we found out and she was around, she would tell the story the same way. In a condescending and judgemental tone, making fun of how I was crying, etc. I always just look to the floor and bite my tongue, because i know if I say anything, she’ll just tell me to relax or disregard my feelings. It hurts because becoming pregnant was the biggest turning point in my life so far, and I feel like it’s being made into a joke.

Sorry for the long post, am I being too sensitive? Or is what she doing wrong? I guess I’m just looking for advice on how to tell her to stop.