How do I tell my overprotective mom that I’m not a virgin?

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IMPORTANT UPDATE: My boyfriend and I went out for the day and got the test. I just took it and it’s negative. 
Im 16 years old and sleeping with this guy I’ve been dating for a little while. She just met him but the only person who knows about it is my grandmother. We use protection..except for this one time and now I’m a month late but that’s a whole other story.. basically I’m asking for help on how to tell her. She met him and he is really a sweetheart. He took her to work on Friday when he first met her when we went out on our breakfast date and then later in the day after getting back from his college took my grandmother to run errands. I do try to talk to my mom but she’s been through a lot and gets ticked off easily. Her fuse is short and she yells and screams and I’ve gotten tired of not being able to have a conversation with her even with little personal things I’d love to share with her. Thanks.
EDIT: Im late and took a test but it was negative. It might be hormones because I am on birth control. I’ve been on the pill since summer ‘17 and have been late before. If I don’t get it by next month him and I are going to see my gyno.
EXTRA EDIT: Everything is consensual in my state I promise. I wouldn’t do anything to hurt him or myself. My grandmother did ask me if I was pregnant because I was nauseous and throwing up last week every night. I told her I’m late but not pregnant it’s probably just my period. I was spotting for 2 days and that was it. If I’m pregnant I’m getting an abortion and that’s final. He is supporting me with that and respects it. Please don’t try to get me to keep it because as a female I have a choice. That’s my choice.
At 16 I have reached the age of consent and can get married with parent/guardian permission. I spoke to a lawyer in my county. I live in PA. 
HOPEFULLY THE LAST EDIT: I just felt like I should be able to talk to my mom like other girls can if that makes me crazy so be it. I love her and I’m trying to keep an open honest relationship. My whole family especially mom has had many sex talks and im extremely hip on guys and not getting played lol. Also I’m respectfully asking not to be bashed for a mistake I made and choosing to deal with it. I am pro choice and respect what anyone chooses to do. I’m not immature and yes I am a child who’s not ready to be a mother nor gonna let my boyfriend go through something like that with me. He told me if I was pregnant and wanted to keep it we’ll get married and he’ll take care of the baby. He won’t be a deadbeat. I love him for that but I’m not ready and know he isn’t either. I take another test in a few days but again I may not be pregnant. Anyways thank you to those who gave me advice I appreciate it.

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Is there a reason you really need to tell her? Aside from potentially pregnancy, which it sounds like you probably aren’t pregnant. Maybe just talk to her and say you really wish you were able to be more open with her.

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I'm sorry your mom never talked to you about sex.  My mom didn't either, I always felt it was taboo, and for that reason, I choose to tell my 9 year old twins and 5 year old daughter a few months ago what sex is.  I wanted to start the convo early so they didn't ever feel shy to come to me.  That being said, in your case, I think bringing it up by saying you want to be open with her because you trust her might help her be more open and less angry.  For me personally, I find it unrealistic that kids are going to wait until marriage or their 20s to have sex (i didn't) and making sure my child is protected and not being forced is more important to me than trying to stop it.  I hope your mom is the same way.

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If he's in college and your 16, in some states that may be considered statutory rape. I would look it up depending on his age. If your close with your grandma, maybe try taking yo her first and see what she says. She may help you relax when it's time to talk to your mom about this. I would have a sit down with your mom at home (not in a public place) and explain how much this boy means to you. She may be upset at first, but show her how you are responsible sand will be able to take care and provide for your baby. Best of luck ❤️

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First Id take a Hot If you havent already and definitely talk to your mom first about how you feel like you cant talk to her and you want to have a serious conversation without yelling and then maybe you can talk about it civilly but definitely do soon so maybe you can tlk about contraceptives, My mom had me at 16 and I went on the pill at 16, but I wish you the best of luck with everything girl ❤️❤️❤️

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are you pregnant?

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Pa actually has really weird consent laws 16 and 17 year olds cant consent to anyone over 18. I know this because i live here and had to figure it out when i was dating and then when my friend was dating a 17 year old. Anywho. If you dont have that kind of relationship with her I wouldn’t try to force it. My mom and i have a pretty crappy relationship and when she found out i was having sex she called me a whore in front of the whole hospital. Sometimes it isnt worth it. If you want to tell her just to tell her but don’t have that kind of relationship im not sure id bother. Now if you have questions maybe ask them or find someone you trust like an aunt or something. As for the period part id go to the gyno sooner then later if you want an abortion there is a time limit on those and the gyno should be able to tell for sure if you’re pregnant with a blood test.

How do I tell my overprotective mom that I’m not a virgin?

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