He thinks he knows best

My husband has decided that he knows how to make me pump more milk in a session...

My 11 week old daughter is being watched closely by her dr to make sure she is gaining enough weight. When we saw the dr today, she said that the slow weight gain is likely due to a milk transfer issue. (She had a tongue tie revised at a month old.) So the dr wants me to pump & bottle feed more and use actual boob time as a comfort/ bonding experience instead of counting it as nutrition. This is why I’m stuck pumping more. (I’ve already got a call in to my lc to do a weighed feed.)

DH has informed me that I’m going to need to pump or nurse every 2 hours. He has brought our daughter to me a few times now and said that it’s time to feed her... she isn’t showing any hunger cues and is completely content to play. I can pump enough to keep up with her needs and freeze some at least twice a week if I do it my way, but he is adamant that it isn’t the best way. I seem to produce best when I’m not being pressured to get enough and can relax, when I’ve had 4-6 hours of uninterrupted sleep (she will sleep longer if we let her), and I’m not being interrupted while I’m pumping.

He wants a regimented two hour routine and is now insisting that I produce 24-30oz instead of the 12-15 plus nursing on demand. While waking me up every 2 hours and coming in to talk with me or ask a question so I can’t fully relax. I’d love to do the side lying nursing, but he doesn’t want her brought into our bed. I understand where he is coming from, but I’ve explained what works and what doesn’t, and he seems to not hear/ understand what I’m trying to say.