Cold feet??

Me and my fiancé haven’t been the best for a couple months. Since December he’s been doing absolutely nothing. I was there for him for months, supporting him, taking care of him, being patient. He graduated from a vocational training program in October and just needs to take his national certification test to be able to get a job. He failed by 2% the first time he took it in the beginning of December and after that he just stopped everything. I was patient and supportive and didn’t push him- like I have been our whole relationship.

Well, I finally blew the F up and told him that I was doing everything, and I wasn’t going to marry him if it was going to be like this (the wedding date is August 18th.)

I have 2 boys, and I work part time while going to college full time and having my own apartment. He was not helping around the house (he stayed 5-6 nights a week) and did not have a job and was not studying for his test for over 2 months.

Then he came back at me saying he’s been down and he’s just in a slump. And if I had a problem I should have told him sooner.

Well, now I’ve really been using my voice and standing up for myself and not taking any shit. I told him I’m not comfortable marrying him if he doesn’t have a job- just for starters. I want a husband that is going to be able to financially support his family and have the DRIVE to want to do that. Every time I try to have a conversation with him about something I have a problem with he gets super defensive and it literally gets no where. We’re both 21, but people say I’m very mature for my age. He is still very arrogant and immature- I think he’s not ready for marriage honestly. 3 weeks ago I told him I didn’t want to marry him if it was going to be like that, and it broke his heart. But it’s like ??? Why tf would I want a partner in life that’s not going to be giving as much as I am. We’ve known each other for 7 years and were very good friends. We started dating about a year ago. He says he’s in love with me and all that matters is me, and honestly makes me feel guilty for saying he needs a job before we get married because “I’m making it about money”.

I’m definitely just venting now, but I feel like I’m super valid. I know it’s a shock for me to be saying exactly what I think, good and bad, but I honestly think we shouldn’t get married. Then again I’m not sure if we’re just

going through a rough patch. Guess I’m just looking for opinions.