Relationship Changes.

Bethany

So, first off I apologize for this being so long. My boyfriend is 25 and I'm 23. We do not live together yet, but have made plans to move in together in September. I don't have a car, and his car was taken over by his mom after hers was totalled (she cosigned for it and he had zero problems letting her have it so that's not an issue) it just means we don't get to see each other often, maybe once a week or on breaks from work if he can. We've been together officially for 5 months, but we've been loyal to each other for a year. Keep in mind, he's extremely introverted most of the time, and hasn't been in a relationship since high school. He has a hard time understanding my needs in the relationship and I do my best to remember that and help him through it rather than attack him for it. We used to be inseparable. Texting 24/7 LITERALLY and couldn't get enough of each other. Now, of course I don't expect that to last forever. But it seems like for the past few months our communication has dwindled. We used to talk for hours every night about all sorts of things, but now it's kind of forced. He goes hours without a text back and then acts like nothing ever happened. I get that he's used to being alone all the time so I try not to take it personally, but it really hurts sometimes. He'll sometimes bring up the fact that I deserve better and I appreciate that he realizes that, but I don't want him to tell me I deserve better. I want him to DO better. The past two days we haven't talked much** because he says he needs to decompress, so I've left him alone and only texted to tell him I'm here for him if he needs it. He hasn't said I love you back, and I'm starting to get worried. Its almost like my gut is telling me that he wants to break up because he doesn't feel like he's good enough or can't put in the effort that I need from him. He is an incredibly unique and amazing individual, and I love the shit out of him. I don't know how to get him to understand that what I'm asking for isn't much, and if he doesn't feel like he's doing good enough that he needs to get on it and put in some real effort instead of just giving up on what we have. I tend to overthink, so its entirely possible that I'm just jumping to this conclusion. I just don't know what to do. Is it even worth fighting for? My heart says that if you really love someone you'll do whatever it takes to make it work. But how do you know if you're just wasting your time? ********* UPDATE**** He texted me a tiny bit last night, and went back to being radio silent. I haven't tried to text him all day, and he hasn't texted me. I waited until 11pm to text him and tell him that I love him and hope he has a good day tomorrow. ***********UPDATE************ He broke up with me over text. Said he doesn't have time for a relationship but still lives me.

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