Small pearl problems

WARNING! A little TMI sexual questions*****Does anyone else only get off from their guys when they go down? Regular sex doesn’t do it for me, and no matter how hard I try or different positions I try I could never hit a g spot which now I don’t believe . I’ve read usually girls with small clits do always reach orgasm because it hard to rub against it during intercourse. Idk what to do I heard to use testosterone cream to make it bigger and sensitive buuuuuut that doesn’t really sound legit and safe. My boyfriend has accepted he has to do go down but I feel bad because he gets lock jaw. Any suggestions?