Is this glorifying childhood trauma?

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I’m sure I’m not the only person who often sees people say on the internet that going through childhood trauma makes you more mature at a young age, more independent, caring and thoughtful etc. I personally don’t even agree with these statements as I have been through awful things in my childhood and I wouldn’t say I’m any more mature than another 17 year old, I wouldn’t say I’m more independent or caring either. Everybody has different reactions when they go through a bad situation.
Do you think this is glorifying trauma or is it just looking at their situation in a cup half full kind of way?

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I don’t think there is anyone glorifying childhood trauma.... it just means the child has been exposed to more than a child should be and that exposure has effects. 
As for yourself, 17 is still very young. You’ll probably see the “benefits” (maturity, independence, ect.) of childhood trauma later on in your mid twenties.

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I think it really depends on the trauma.  Example losing mom at a young age with 2 smaller siblings, you tend to help out and kinda take on a young mom role.   Maybe  some other traumas  make you "street  smart" at a younger age since you're not as naive.  But to say all traumas  change you for the better as an adult is ridiculous

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I don’t think I became more mature. I think I became less so because I hid myself away more and didn’t talk to other kids. By the time I healed enough to talk to other kids I was a couple years behind emotionally. My mom makes comments that I’m still behind in maturity but I think I’ve come a long way.

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I think it’s fine if people want to frame their own traumas that way as a coping mechanism. Attempting to tell others that’s how they should view things is wrong though.

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No, i dont. Those are just things that typically come with trauma by necessity. I had to be independent and mature because my mom wouldnt come out of the closet for days at a time sometimes. I had to take care of myself.  Of course youre different than other kids when you come home to a drug addict. Or not have a home to come home to. I dont think acknowledging that is glorifying it.

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I see what they mean because I can piece things together NOW that I couldn’t before and I can’t understand it, and in a way I did mature faster than others. I am better at handling situations because I needed to keep my cool and take care of myself so that’s a plus. But at the same time that’s not a positive thing? Where did my childhood go? Trauma isn’t a healthy thing, i have many issues.
 I didn’t get to have a happy worry free childhood. I don’t get to have it now either. It brings in a lot of mental health problems. It’s good to have a positive look on the past but I feel it’s a double edged sword. That might just be me though.

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I don’t think it’s glorifying it. I was forced to grow up at a young age and take care of myself due to my parents drug addiction. Emancipated myself and moved out at 16. So just because it didn’t affect you the same, doesn’t mean it doesn’t affect others that way. And it’s not glorifying anything.

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It’s not glorified. No one says “I been through so much shit, and I am so happy I went through all those traumatizing events because I wanted to grow up faster than the average teenager, and miss on on fun teenage things!!🙂👍🏽” 🙃no. But rather just proud of the person they are, and making the best of it. Me and my brother were out through lots of traumatic events, and he’s on drugs, and living that kinda lifestyle, I’m in school, have a son, and family of my own now. 2 completely different choices. He’s very immature, and I’m not. It does just depend on the person, and how they take it, but I’m proud of who all those events made me.

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I don't agree either. Going through trauma can mess up with a child's brain development. If anything all I've "gained" from it are really bad and unhealthy coping mechanism.

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I had some childhood trauma. Abusive. And it has NOT benefitted me and I am old enough to understand that it hasn’t and will never benefit me. It has created a deep anxiety in me that will never go away. I am even depressed because of it. I don’t think it glorifies child good trauma but it also depends on the trauma. Abusive trauma never has benefits.

Is this glorifying childhood trauma?

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