Christmas gifts?
So, before I begin, I want to make sure y'all know that I'm not trying to take away the true meaning of Christmas by being upset about gift giving.
My husband and I have been together for 5 years, but married for 2. We've got 2 beautiful kids together, 3 yrs & 1 yr. I've just recently within the last year taken over the finances because he couldn't stop spending our savings and bill money on stupid stuff. I'm no accountant, but I'd say I'm doing a pretty good job because within 1 year, I've paid off his $3000 debts and we have NEVER had a late payment on amything. (I became a stay at home mom after my youngest was born because we moved to a place with no family to watch the kids). I'm also going back to school (college) and completing a degree as a large animal vet. So as you can see, I've got quite a bit on my plate.
Around August this year, he asked to have a Christmas allowance each week to buy Christmas gifts for me (since I buy for the kids & set the budget for christmas). I agreed and have been giving him $50-$75 a week, which has been matched on my side for his Christmas gifts. (Each week I get 50 & he gets 50). This is the 1st week of December and I have only $100 left to pay off his big gift (Xbox one x fallout which is $500) and the rest of his gifts are bought.
I'm upset because he should have about $700 saved up from negative given him & most of it has been spent on himself. (Food, "man toys", more food, and tools)
Now, I understand he should be able to spend his income on himself sometimes, which he gets to do quite a bit. More often than I get to get anything for myself. But this wouldn't be the first Christmas that I spent lots of time and money on everyone else and received nothing. And Christmas isn't the only time this happens... birthdays, anniversaries, the only gifts I receive through the year is from my parents/siblings.
I am upset because I'm putting in so much effort to get gifts I know he'll love, enjoy, and use... and I'm left disappointed.
I don't want to ruin Christmas morning for my kids because I'm complaining, but this is getting really depressing. I mean, 5 years and I've never gotten anything...
What would y'all do? What's your suggestions on how to deal with this (inwardly & outwardly)?
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