Is this a form of gaslighting?

My husband tells his mom that i don’t want to clean and that i won’t cool for him but in truth i try my hardest to clean everyday it’s hard with a high need toddler who wants to “help” clean by making more of a mess but i try and i cook 3 meals a day and my husband won’t eat it i serve him and i tell him to eat and he says he doesn’t want to eat my food and it sucks 😭 so his mom goes and tells everyone in their family i don’t clean or cook for him which if i both my mother in law visit once a months or less she’s never even around. Then on Christmas eve we got invited to my husbands Dad house for the day and i asked all day what time are we going to your dads so i can coordinate our babies nap and get him ready for it he kept saying all day he’s to tired wants to nap and we finally went super late at night and my husband left his phone on the table and i wanted to sew some photos he took do our son opening a early gift and it was on the conversation with his dad and i saw he texted his dad saying I’m being a bitc# and i didn’t want to go and his dad asked why doesn’t she want to come and he replied that I’m all moody all the time 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️