Only child? Or not

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My duaghter will turn 2 in May. With my husband we keep going back and forward about having another child.
I'm so afraid, because with 1 kid I'm exhausted. I'm stay at home mom, so I've been taking my daughter everywhere since she was 2m old. She does ballet, swimming, little gym, and all the library classes. On top of that I keep my house clean and cook every day. 
My husband says I'm overdoing, but if I don't do it who?. 
I'm afraid this will get worse with 2 kids. 
Also, my baby was planned 100% (thank you Glow). We had all we needed when we were expecting. 
PS: I'm an only child, so I'm clueless about a household with more than 1 kid.

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My husband and I are only sticking with one child. We both come from families with three siblings and from my personal experience, it's rough. 
Long story short, there wasn't enough to go around, and I don't just mean financially. My dad was the sole breadwinner until I was 14 years old and my mom stayed at home with us. It sounds great because my mom was around all the time, but she was tired from taking us around to our activities, cleaning house, etc. I can't recall her having enough energy for "us" time. 
My dad passed away last August and I can't even explain to you how much we missed out on with him because he was constantly working. He was stretched out so thin that when he did get home from work at night, his dinner was in the microwave and by the time we all went to bed we didn't get to spend much time together. When my mom did start working in 2008, I never saw her either because she was working a cleaning job in the evenings and I was home alone with my little sister. They we so much in debt that my dad actually took on a second job cleaning at night and then I really never got to see him until I started working there too at 15. Not to mention the strain it put on my parents' relationship.
My brother is 4 years older than me, I'm the middle child, and my sister is 5 years younger than me. The age gaps are hard. None of us ever had much in common, especially my brother and sister who are 9 years apart. My brother played rough and was a lot bigger so I was always getting hurt. I'm sure you've heard enough middle child stories to last a lifetime. Don't get me wrong, I love them both, but even as adults none of us are close.
I get guilted constantly by my family about not having another kid, but I'm not going to budge. She's not even 3 months old yet and they're asking when I'll have another. The biggest argument is "but who is she going to play with?!" Us, of course! At 25 and 26 my husband and I are young parents and I fully intend on keeping up with her. My fondest childhood memories were the times I got to "play" with my parents. My job pays our mortgage and most of the bills working 40 hours a week. I don't want to miss out on time with my daughter because I'm putting too much energy into making ends meet. Plus she's already perfect and when you get it right the first time, there's no need to try again 😂

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It's really not that pad, just start trying for 2 now and they will grow up together and bug each other lol

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Wow... you are doing a LOT. That’s so many activities and keeping up with house and cooking. You might be overdoing it, like your husband said. Free play time is also important.
I don’t have two and am in the same boat as you (going back and forth all the time). I did grow up with a brother.
Please don’t take this the wrong way, I mean it kindly, but you might evaluate why you are doing so many activities. Kids are more likely to succeed at, and therefor enjoy, just a couple activities. I notice this with my students. Those that have fewer activities are able to excel at their violin studies much better and that eventually can help them to get scholarships to college. I know she’s young and most of what you’re doing is library classes, but just consider the life that you are setting up for in the future.

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I found it’s easy with second child just when you add in a 3rd ive found its more hard work.😂 My oldest was on his own for 1st 5yrs of his life, then we had our youngest son and they have such a amazing bond.. I’ve asked my oldest if he enjoys having a little brother or was it better on his own. He says it’s great having a little brother as someone to share his bedroom with and play fight with but he does find him annoying at times.😂 I’m such a organised person so have a good routine with my boys and there activities, plus keeping my house clean and tidy and doing school runs. The second child defo isn’t as hard as I thought it would of been, as my routine didn’t change much. but now I’ve just had our little girl (3rd baby) 8wks ago I find it takes me a lot longer to get things done with so many kids to sort out 1st. I have an older brother and sister and I’m so glad I have them in my life as I know my mum & dad won’t be around forever..

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