What should I do?

Question

Here's a little backstory to me: I'm 18 and I just had my son 4 months ago. I've always struggled with depression and anxiety, and sometimes everything is just a lot for me to handle.. and I cry - I'll admit, it's probably more than I should. But honestly I cant help it.
My husband pretty much tells me I'm a bad mom because there's a lot of time I cannot hold myself together. He tells me I need to grow up and take better care of my son.. ultimately making me cry worse, of course. 
I dont know what to do.. I've been to pathways and everything over depression.. but honestly hes starting to really hurt my feelings, in more ways than that but i wont get into it. Any advice?

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Go to a doctor.
Kick your husband in him balls.
Not in any particular order either.

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Being depressed and anxious doesn’t make you a bad mom. Crying in front of your baby doesn’t make you a bad mom. But ridiculing your wife for being depressed/anxious and crying does make your husband a questionable husband. It’s very sad he’s making you feel worse instead of supporting you through this. Having a 4 month old is hard enough without depression. Can you talk to your OB/midwife about counseling or meds? I was 4 months PP when my normal meds stopped working as well and I needed an adjustment due to PP anxiety. And I use an app called Calm when I’m feeling especially bad, it has little 10-minute sessions to guide you to a calmer place, maybe you can try that when baby is sleeping or laying on the floor next to you.

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You need to get help for your depression and anxiety and you need to tell your husband that he is making it worse. You need support, not more to fight!
Also, you're a good mom. Being sick doesn't make you a bad mom and no matter what your husband says having depression and anxiety is being sick!
If he doesn't get it at all, I would consider leaving him. Don't spend your life with someone bringing you down.

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Girl I think most of us new moms can agree we ALL cry....A LOT!!! My son is 6 months and I still get emotional but the first 4 months were the hardest. Between the hormones and how difficult being a new parent is we need to cry to release all those feelings. Being a mom is so much harder than I could have ever imagined. The lack of sleep...omg that alone can have a huge impact on our emotions. Sounds like your husband isn’t doing his fair share of parenting. Also dads try to understand and relate but they can’t ever truly know what we are going through and have been through after carrying and having the baby. It’s just not the same for them.  Have a serous talk about how he is hurting your feelings and how what he is saying is not helping you but making it worse. Tell him what you need from him when you are feeling emotional and how he can better support you.

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