Need advice

Sorry for the long post but im desperate. My husband and i have been married for a little over 2 yrs now and we have a 1 year old. When we got married he agreed to relocate to be with me. Im a doctor and going through my residency program at the moment.

My husband has been great, but we do have major personality clashes; we are both extremely stubborn and have constant arguments. Basically We argue for the sake of arguing. We got used to it but I’m scared it will build up to bigger fights in the future.

Now, when my husband relocated he quit his job and doesn’t have a work permit to work here. So he has an online business, but its slow and not demanding. He mainly takes care of our son. I work long hours; 8-5 or 6 and have to be on call twice a month. He complains all the time about taking care of our son and i come home to a messy apartment every day. He never cleans or washes dishes or even does laundry. We hired someone to clean once a week and he refuses to pay more for extra help. I spend my weekends catching up on chores and spending time with my son. He plays video games all day and complains about how being a stay at home dad is so much work. I suggested day care but he refuses to pay for it and says he can handle it, but he is unhappy most of the time and complains about my hours.

Now, the biggest issue is that I’m beginning to resent him for being a SAHD. He gets to do all the things im dying to do with our son all day and yet he complains. I’m also resenting him for not helping with the house and refusing daycare ( i said we will both pay for it but he still says no). I come home exhausted and i end up playing catch up and he continues with his video games until bedtime.

He’s a great dad he loves our son so much but i dont think he loves me. I feel like he married me for the opportunity of relocating and staying at home while i work. We argue so much and its nothing extreme just small things, but everyone arounds us is starting to notice and gets uncomfortable even my MIL told us to stop arguing in front of her. I feel like our only bond is our son and our love for him.

I don’t know what to do anymore to reconnect with him.