Hi there!

I am so happy to have found this community. I am pregnant with my first, just over 4 weeks along. The pregnancy was not planned. The father is someone I was in a relationship with about seven years ago - we remained friends and would hook up from time to time.

I told him the first day I found out I was pregnant. I was feeling like although it wasn’t planned, we could support one another and navigate co-parenting despite not being in a relationship. The day I told him he was in shock, didn’t say much. Seemed understandable. The next day he texted me and was quite accusatory asking questions about my birth control. I was kind in my response trying to be understanding of all of the emotions we both have right now and keeping in mind our communication is more important now than ever. He never responded. That was two days ago. I haven’t heard from him since.

There is a part of me that feels so hurt. And then there is this part of me that feels like, if he isn’t going to be there, better now than down the road. I am shocked as I never thought he would be the guy to do this. But trying to give myself pep talks and remind myself that I am a strong woman and no matter what I can do this. At the same time, I am terrified. Any advice? Similar situations? I’m feeling filled with joy and so alone at the same time.