He didn’t mean to make me feel insecure...

These things just happen. I love my dad so much, but sometimes his priorities are really off. (As we all struggle with.) my dad is 81. He’s always been thin and active and never balded. Those are pride points for him. It’s great. It keeps him healthy and living longer. But he’s definitely not a healthy eater. Anyways, my mom who died when I was 13 from ovarian cancer was not thin. She Always struggled with her weight. My sister struggles and works super hard to keep it off. I struggle. And still do. I have not yet found something that really works for me, but I’m a mom of three littles and I know I’m not where I would like to be, but I can’t afford to obsess over it.

Well, we were at a family gathering and my dad, who I rarely get to see because we live many states apart, hugged me, and later sat down to talk, but just didn’t engage much. And then my sister (only sibling, we are very close) walks in and he immediately gets up and goes to her and is like, wow, you look so great! How much do you weigh now? And just gushing over how great she looks. And my sister is like, Yess! For the first time in my life I weigh less than my dad! And my dad is so impressed and just keeps talking about it. My stepmom, who says random things to get attention on herself and put down my dad sometimes, says that when they got married, he made her promise to not get fat like Judith (my mom who died). I know he loved her and me and us all, but sometimes I just can’t get past this and why he cares so much about that. It’s important but not that much. I know he didn’t mean to make me feel bad but he did. I told my husband and reassured me and told me to focus on forgiveness. Love covers a multitude of sins. He’s right, and God is good. But I did want to tell someone. Just to get it off my mind.