Helpppp! Yesterday my girlfriend and I had sex and when I went to the bathroom I saw blood in my shorts. She only fingered me and I’m a virgin so is this considered losing my virginity?

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I believe you did. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that! If you have intimate, sexual relations and “popped your cherry,” then it counts in my book! That’s something super special anyway. And of course, I suppose there’s another “type” of virginity, in the societal sense of pen*s-in-vag*na sex, but honestly that’s totally arbitrary if you’re into vag lol

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Virginity is a social construct 🗣
You had a sexual experience. The concept of virginity as we understand it is so closely associated with penetration- that is, it implies that a woman’s sexual status (virgin or non-virgin) is thought of in a way that revolves around MEN. It also implies that ”virginity” is something to be taken or given, rather than an experience to be had by two willing participants. 
It is very possible that in this sexual encounter you broke your hymen. It can happen with fingering. My cousin is a lesbian and has been sexually active for years now, but ONLY RECENTLY had her hymen broken by a sexual partner. Does that mean she was or wasn’t a virgin before this happened??? Did her hymen FINALLY breaking invalidate her first, second, or hundredth sexual encounter because her hymen (which has been held to be the symbol of virginity throughout history) hadn’t been broken in those encounters?
Nope. Because virginity isn’t real.
ANYWAYYYYY sorry for going off, hope it was bomb sex💗😘

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I think it’s more spiritual tbh. If you want it to count as your first time, then you can say it was. But if not you don’t have too.

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Her nails were probably too long or it was too rough

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You can lose it to a girl. But did you bleed for longer than just a day?

Helpppp! Yesterday my girlfriend and I had sex and when I went to the bathroom I saw blood in my shorts. She only fingered me and I’m a virgin so is this considered losing my virginity?

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