my mother had me once she was fairly old, wont say the age as to not to offend any mothers who might be that same age lol. but she was always mistaken for my grandmother even when i was very young, and she’s made it clear she knows she’s old to have a kid my age.

but i feel like if you raise a child while you’re still young, youre more likely to grow into being a kinder mother. when you love your child while you’re younger, you are still kind of carefree in a way that you lose as you get older? so an older mother might not be as patient with all the baby things. like it would be harder to handle waking up in the middle of the night for a baby when you’re already tired from being older. as the baby gets older, maybe it just becomes another thing that tires the mother.

don’t get me wrong, i know that with young mothers someone could have resentment towards their baby for taking up their time during their younger years. but still, it feels like having an older mother meant having one who didn’t have the energy to expend on being loving.