Hey guys, I’m looking for some honest advice off you lovely ladies..

So I had a baby 5 weeks ago, her father wasn’t around through the pregnancy. I had him arrested for threatening behaviour just before I found out I was pregnant, he then broke his bail conditions after I had found out and told him so he was remanded for even more threats. He then ended up jailed until my pregnancy was nearly over. I also now have a restraining order on him for a decade.

He’s never been a danger to children in anyway shape or form. I need to clarify that. Well he asked for a chance to be a part of his little ones life when she was just over 3 weeks old. I went through the right channels such as social services to get advice on the best way to allow this to happen as I didn’t want my daughter to miss out on having two parents like my older child does.. they agreed he could have contact with her as long as it was supervised by someone of my choosing (my parents) but essentially it is down to me when he can see her, where too and for how long. Also if I was to terminate the contact there is nothing he can do about this. The reasons they have put this in place is because he has a history of dv.

Now the part I need advice on is this..

He met his daughter when she was 4 weeks old, he seen her again two days later. Since then no one has heard off him, no contact, messages, phonecalls, nothing..

Now it’s been a week since the last time he seen her or even asked about her. I have since found out it is because he has been in the pub everyday drinking..

Would I be wrong for contacting social services and cutting all contact when he’s clearly shown that drinking comes before my little girl? He had a drinking problem before but had sworn he wasn’t drinking anymore and just wanted the chance to be a good father yet his actions are clearly showing something different..

What would you ladies do? I just want my daughter to have a happy, healthy and stable life and I don’t think he’s going to provide that. Am I in the right cutting off all contact or does it make me bitter after everything that’s gone on between us?

Thanks in advance. 😘😘

Update - guys it’s now been a week and half since anyone last heard off him, my hv wants me to contact ss and cut all contact between my little one and her dad. If I do that there is no going back on it, if I don’t then I have no idea how long it will take for him to get into contact.. how long should I leave it before cutting all ties as he’s clearly not bothered about his little girl?

Before anyone asks about whether he’s working or has a valid excuse for not being in touch I know with absolute certainty that the reason he has not been in contact is because he is in the pub everyday drinking as the weather has been very warm..

Advice greatly appreciated. For those who have already commented just know I appreciate what you have said😘😘