Only want one baby?

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I had two miscarriages, one in May 2017, March 2018, and then had my daughter June 2019. After everything we went through, I am so thankful and in love with my daughter I cannot imagine trying for another baby. I miss being pregnant but was miserable a lot of it. I also feel like I wouldn’t want to give another baby my attention when my daughter is so special to me. I know, I’ll probably feel different in a few years but does anyone else feel like this? Like one baby is perfect and they could just give all their love and attention to it forever?

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That’s how I feel. And I always have people tell me that they are sure I will change my mind and maybe they are right but I don’t appreciate that they are so dismissive about how I feel NOW.

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As soon as I was about half way through my pregnancy people asked when I was having another one! We were blessed to have one and honestly even though my pregnancy was pretty good and normal I could never think about going through that again. It was six years of heartache and that’s because we got lucky. I finally started telling people the truth about why I only wanted one, I said we had had fertility issues and it was traumatic for us and we were happy with bringing one baby into the family. It may have been awkward for them but maybe people will start thinking twice before asking such intimate questions.

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100% feel the same.

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I’m with ya, girl! I had a previous miscarriage last year and now have my beautiful daughter. Her delivery was very traumatic and I thought she was going to die at birth. Then she ended up in the NICU. I honestly don’t think I want to go through the anxiety of pregnancy and fear of another miscarriage followed by the fear of losing a baby at childbirth. And why should I put myself through that if I have a perfect daughter to give all my love to? 💜

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That’s how I felt with my 1st I had 3 miscarriages before him and he was so special. But then he got to about 18 months and I realised how nice it would be for him to have someone to play with so we had our 2nd. When I was pregnant I thought I wouldn’t love the baby as much as his brother and that my 1st and me would lose our bond. But I did! 
I’ve just had my 3rd and I love all of them equally and it’s such a positive for them to have each other. 
Your feelings may change later on too or you may decide to stick with just the one, do whatever works for you and your family x

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I feel the same but want to wait 3-4 years before we have another anyway so if I feel different then we’ll have another, if I feel the same, we’ll just have 1. My husband is fine with either.

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I swore I wanted 2-3 before i had my daughter now I want 1, just her lol. My pregnancy was beautiful. I could do that again in a heartbeat. My labor and delivery was terrifying and horrible. I swear I have PTSD from it. I love her so much but it’s been hard adjusting to mom life. I might change my mind later but I’d super appreciate if people didn’t tell me “you’ll change your mind for sure”why do I have to have more then 1 baby. And my boyfriend already has a daughter so we have two beautiful girls 2 years apart in age. We will totally have our hands full lol

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I was conflicted with adding a second child after my first. I mean, come on, experiencing love like that, it's hard to imagine loving another so strongly. It was an amazing feeling though getting that positive pregnancy test again and that love came just as strong when baby #2 arrived. I realize how much my siblings impact my life now as an adult, but I couldn't imagine trying to divide time to more than two, the guilt would be the end of me.

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I feel this way. After years of testing and help with conception, I can't imagine another round of it. But now my LO is 7 weeks and I went and got onto BC and now my hubby wants another down the road. I got so used to the idea of just her but now maybe I'll go one more time. Eventually. It was a lot of heartbreak and I hated pregnancy but love my little girl so much. Only time will tell but until then I'm going to love on her as long as she'll let me!

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I had fertility issues as well and after my daughter was born I just didn’t have the heart to try again. By the time she was 2 I was just really happy with having 1. Few weeks later SURPRISE! Spontaneous pregnancy. My son is 8 weeks old now and I wouldn’t trade it back for my freedom :)

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