Help/ advice please!!!

Ok.. idk where to start.. I’m done.. I’m tired that my hubby “can’t live” without his parents!(I love my family as well) He’s about to turn 24 y.o and he wants to celebrate with all of our families(he has only mom and dad, and I have also sister and a brother, my family is pretty big), I told that I don’t want to throw a party in our house, I want to celebrate with him(together) and that he can celebrate with his family on the next day, (plus, my family said that it’s his birthday and he is not a child any more to celebrate every holiday with parents). Every freaking holiday we celebrate with our parents, I’m tired of it, we have our own family now, WHY do we have to still celebrate with them?? My family gets me so we’ll, but his family is just too much and my husband doesn’t get it! I NEED ADVICE, PLEASE!