Husband never wanting sex

Hey all,

Just have a little issue here. It’s been 3 weeks since my husband has wanted to do anything. We talked about it last night because he’s realized I’ve been distant and not really happy. I told him the reason and obviously because of him not wanting to have sex with me. His reasoning is his anxiety (totally understandable) and now that we have a toddler , it’s “hard”. He also said he would rather make me super happy and he misses how I was “before”. (We had sex quite frequently years ago.) I’ve mentioned couples therapy or talking openly about this. He doesn’t think sex is top priority in a marriage. I mean, it’s not top priority but I personally think it is, along with trust and honesty. I can’t help but think he has an addiction to porn or he’s interested in someone else etc. He said he isn’t and I shouldn’t be thinking like that. He says I’m working up for no reason and that he loves me. I’m just conflicted. Has anyone else gone through the same thing? I feel like I can’t do anything because he will shut me down, or say “not today”. I’m personally super frustrated.