Family not bothering

My baby is 4 months old and nobody has had the decency to even pick up the phone to me. 90% of my family haven’t seen her because they haven’t checked up on us so I’m not putting in the effort to take her to fake happy family events.

There’s a funeral next week (extended dads family) and my mom literally forwarded the address to me and I said I’m not going just to people please and have everyone asking me where my baby is (funeral is not a place for a baby in my opinion but family would see that otherwise)

It’s also my sisters graduation and my moms probably assuming I’m bringing the baby but it’s not my day it’s my sisters and in all honesty I want to have a glass of bubbly. But she’ll be pissed when I turn up without her. She asked me to travel 100 miles just to see her but she can’t even ring to see how we are I literally cannot deal with the selfishness