I know my kinks but why is it so hard to find people with the same?

Hi guys! So I had a FWB who introduced me to the link world of BDSM. I loved it. I love bondage and sensory deprivation etc. I introduced my ex boyfriend (when we were together) and it was great. Then we broke up and I haven’t had sex in months. I’m in college so yes there are plenty of ways for me to get sex but none of it is the sex I want. I want intense, foreplay, toys etc sex. I’m so tempted to hit up my ex boyfriend but I know I can’t do that. I just don’t know how to find people also interested in it and it’s driving me crazy, literally!

Sorry i needed to rant