Crazy possessive mil

So my mil is two faced. She openly picks favorites and is always talking shit about everyone. She believes her life is a soap opera and she is the victim in everything.

She’s said that shes more important than other family members (my older sister). She complains that she’s being left out and is missing so much of babys life. S he also likes to spend a lot of money. And it’s turned into buying the baby anything and everything she wants. She texts me and tells me to put him into a certain outfits. The problem is... i have been struggling with PPD and I don’t do what she wants. I do things my way and then she texts my fiancé and complains to him that she’s hurt and confused.

She’s been overstepping

She recently tried to buy the baby his first thanksgiving outfit and I told her no. that I wanted to pick out and purchase his holiday outfit but thank you. And omg. You would have thought I killed her dog. She called her son. My so. And was crying to him. Saying I don’t know what I did to her. She’s so mean to me.

This is ridiculous. She’s so possessive. She’s called my baby. Her baby. Which may not be a big deal to some, is a big deal to me. She didn’t carry him full term. She’s not the one who barely ate and threw up constantly every day the entire pregnancy. She’s not the one who had to push him out. He is MY baby. The first time it happened I was tell aback. I told my fiancé and he agreed that it was wrong and she shouldn’t. The next few times it happened I corrected her and said your grandson. It never got through her thick head. Finally when I was spending time with his family and she said it again I shouted at her and told her no! He is my baby. Your grandson. Everyone else laughed. She just looked at

Me.

She’s offered to watch the baby when I go back to work. And she’s offered to do it here in our home which would really help because our dogs wouldn’t need to be alone if she was there. We worked out a deal so she would just watch him two days a week. When we mentioned it, now she’s changing it too. I can pick him up from your work and then you can pick him up from my house. She doesn’t live close to neither my job or my home. I told her that that would not work. That would be very out of the way for us. She’s saying that she can drop him off to me when I get off work then. I told her no again and she’s not taking it for an answer. I’m ready to tell her that she won’t watch him if she won’t be at our house. Both my fiancé and I agreed to this because we know that she would drive everywhere parading him around and we did not want that.

I’ve told my fiancé that she stresses me out. I can’t deal with her drama anymore. It’s so bad. I get anxious when I get ready to go see his mom and that side of

His family. Straight up anxiety.

Thanks for reading my long ass rant. I just need some love from the mom community and to know that I’m not the only one who has a crazy mil.