What would you do? Husband lying, but from years ago.

I'll just jump straight into my situation, because I just need to get it off my chest, and I'm not sure how i should react, so I'm just not doing anything at the moment.

Me and my husband have been married 2 years, dated for 2 years prior so have been together for a total of 4.

When we first got together, I had a lot of trust issues from previous relationships and insecurities, I expressed to him how I still need time to heal, and if that's something he isnt willing to work with me on we should wait on dating. Well to my surprise he wanted to work on it with me, which made my heart so happy because it wasnt his burden to bare in the first place. I felt cared for. That my feelings matter after the last few relationships that ended with my exs cheating on me.

Our relationship went great, I told him I didnt want pornography or anything explicit in our relationship, because of my insecurities and working on myself I just couldnt handle it. He agreed and told me how much I meant to him, and he didnt care about that stuff anyways.

Fast forward to now, we have a very laid back relationship, he watches porn, we do it together sometimes, doesnt bother me anymore because he worked on those insecurities with me in the beginning and helped me feel good about myself again, so for the last couple of years it really hasn't bothered me.

Well recently he wanted me to log in to his old instagram account to get pics of his old car off it for him. He was playing video games next to me and I didnt mind doing it. I logged in, got the pictures, then saw he had like 30 unread messages. I got a sick feeling, and decided to look.

I noticed most of them were before we dated, so I just passed by them cause they dont matter to our relationship. Then I started seeing some from when we were together. And that's where I found it all. Explicit images of him and other guys sending them back and fourth to each other talking about how hot these girls were...

It wouldnt bother me now... but what bothers me is that I was in a sensitive time... and he agreed to work with me on it and help me feel better. He agreed to take a break from it all... I feel, lied to.

I also feel confused, because it's not like he cheated, but I do feel lied to. I just dont know how to address it or if I even should since we have allowed that stuff in our relationship the last couple years. It's hard to shake the angry feeling... and sadness. I think back to how I used to feel about myself and how much that meant to me in that time, to see he wasnt really putting in the effort hurts. I dont even think we would have stayed together if I knew, because in that time that's what I really needed.