Disrespect? Who’s right?

So my boyfriend of 7.5 months and I bicker about once a month.

It’s normally not bad but we’ve gotten in a handful of heated talks throughout the relationship.

A lot of it was things “I messed up on.” Or he thinks I caused the issue.

In my past, i was in a toxic relationship and with my new relationship (first once since then)... I’m not sure if I’m just being unreasonable for not wanting to put up with this and at a possible loss of understanding for him.. I’m just confused if I’m really as bad as he makes me seem.

So I’ve never cheated on him. Never wanted to, planned to. I have innocently flirted with someone in September, although I told him I had a boyfriend and stopped replying. It was a conversation thru a dm from a guy i orig. talked to over a year ago.

Anyways, so we’ve fixed things and compromised since then. Part of the compromise is that I can hang out with my friends, whenever I want but be done at a reasonable time, especially if you’re out with like the opposite gender. To me that seems reasonable, I wouldn’t really want to worry about my partner either.

However, this is my gay best friend. He’s upset because I wrote his name on my kiss list I had back in hs.. a loong time ago I wrote that i kissed someone with the same name. Although it is a common name, I haven’t kissed many people.. I just wrote the list a long time ago bc someone challenged me to 🤷🏻‍♀️ bc they did.. like a internet challenge.

Point of the story is that since my bf and I have fixed things. I left my gay best friends house, who’s basically my neighbor at 11:09. After my boyfriend called me at 11 to ask me if I was still there.... he stopped sharing his location.. shortly after I told him we should negotiate and talk about it or I remove mine.. he said there was nothing to talk about so I removed my location sharing too..

He’s upset with me and disappointed I didn’t follow my part in the boundaries we set.. but I’ve literally known my best friend since 4th grade and if I have kissed him once.. it was a joke bc I by god don’t ever recall this...

Does he have a point.. we had this breakup early October and it lasted 2 days. Should I still be “trying to earn his trust”

I think that’s manipulative and trust is not not about earning/fixing from your partner but from supporting your partner.

Also side note: I’ve been on my best behavior since the break up and I’ve been really trying to show him my regret in messaging that guy in my dms.. I’ve been supporting him up & beyond in school and work and it just seems unfair I have a boundary to be home when not even my own parents are like that.

Ladies if anyone read this.. lmk what u think(:

-B