If so what did it look like? If not, what would your advice be?

Please read + help. I’m trying to figure out what’s best, release control, but also not be stupid in what I do with my son and how I advocate for him.

Trying to figure out what would be best for my son and our situation. The dad has the opportunity to see our son every day and only been visiting 2x a week if that for maybe an hour in our apartment which is very small and I also have an almost 3 year old. I was mandated to report our 2 month old son on my state aid case and prefaced this by telling him they file for child support on my behalf, we had a very specific conversation about it and even still he took the paperwork VERY personally. He went straight into defense mode, went into the office and they called me from the office saying he was in asking how much he sees him and I was honest and then he disputed the order so now we will be going to court. I know it’s only for child support however it has brought up that he is becoming resentful toward me, my living situation, and my older son because of how we have been doing visitations and that the uncomfortable factor is driving him away from spending time with him, I have asked him a couple of times previously what his ideal would look like/what he feels should be how we are doing things and he has said we were doing what’s best as is, so I’m somewhat upset that this wasn’t communicated in a healthy way until it got blown up. I mostly want to just do what’s best for my son, and I know newborns thrive with consistency, in familiar environments, and with a predictable schedule. We have talked about potentially having him spend an hour with him at his sisters who also has a 1y/o so he’d still at least have some maternal guidance as he’s not invested much time in getting to know our sons cues in the 2 months since he’s been born. The more I think about it the more I feel worried sick. I just feel like it’s making it extremely convenient for him when he’s not proven he’s dedicated to our son no matter what the comfort level is. The more I think on it the more I feel like maybe it would be good to get a set schedule for these in mother’s home visits (which is what I’d seen as typical) and when he establishes that he is consistent and committed for x amount of time (maybe until our 6 month parenting plan is revisited) then we could start with one visit at his sisters without me. And ease into more independent visits so that they can bond and have time together. I’m just so torn because I don’t want to be selfish and rob them of that but at the same time he’s not shown he’s willing to sacrifice the time and I’d just be making it easier for him. And I don’t think it’s something the court would mandate until he’s a bit older. Just curious thoughts. There’s a lot more, like his roommate lost his own infant due to substance abuse, he himself had issues with substance abuse (alcohol), and I don’t feel his gf who he’s broken up with twice in the last two months and she has been very unsupportive of him spending time with our son should be involved yet. I just feel like significant others shouldn’t be involved until the relationship is established in longevity and seriousness and healthy otherwise you throw the children into the emotional rollercoaster of a relationship then the withdrawal from that when we already have enough of that crap between the two of us. I’m all for navigating it in a healthy way just feel like it’s too soon. The last time they broke up was a couple weeks ago. I’m just seeking advice and I know some people will have some brash things to say, I’m hopeful a few have some constructive advice. I’m just doing the best I can and trying to figure it all out.