Idk how I feel about this

So my husband is out of town for work this week. I just had a baby in August (our 3rd) and I haven’t been able to have sex with him. It hurts so freakin bad and I’m never in the mood. Anyway, I was using his iPad today for the calculator, and I guess his iMessages get sent to his iPad. He was texting his work friend about going out around 10:30 tonight. No big deal. His friend is engaged and I like him, he’s a good guy. My husband is a good guy also. So anyway I was talking to my husband on the phone and he didn’t mention anything about going out which I found weird because we are open about that stuff. So I said “so have you found any time for fun or has it been all work?” And he danced around telling me his plans for tonight. So I tried a few more times to see if he’d tell me and he didn’t.

So at the end of our call he’s like “oh I’m so tired I could fall asleep.” So we said goodnight and hung up. And since originally I accidentally stumbled upon the texts with his plans, I checked again to see if he was really going to bed 🙈

He told his friend he was gonna stay at his hotel and go to sleep. But then his friend said come over we can hang with my roommate and have beers and smoke. And so my husband was like oh fine I’ll get out of my pjs and come over.

I feel like it’s irresponsible to smoke and especially with coworkers... also I’m home with a colicky 3 month old baby dealing with her dairy and soy allergies as well as our 3 year old twins. Also he is being sketchy!

Should this bother me? I’m so confused and feel so weird about it because idk what to feel. It feels like he was being sneaky. He knows I get weird when he goes on trips, I just like him to be transparent but I’m ok if he goes out as long as I feel like he’s being transparent. Idk why he wouldn’t mention it. I didn’t ask him because I wanted him to tell me on his own, and I wanna see if he mentions it when he comes home or if he continues to hide it from me