Would you put up with a SO who hasn’t seen your family in 2 yrs and still won’t make the effort *More details

I can’t edit my poll post so I will explain more here.

If you didn’t read that post, basically my very serious boyfriend who I’ve lived with for 3 years hasn’t seen my family in 2 years because he doesn’t want to. I’ve asked him a couple times if my family did or said anything wrong and he said no he loves them. But he says he hates family time, doesn’t care about that stuff, and since he saw them some times during our first year together he thinks that makes up for the rest of his life and doesn’t have to anymore.

I’d told him I just want him to see them one time this year but he’s avoided it all year. My family use to love him now they don’t like him as much because of him not seeing them in so long (I didn’t tell him that). He says if they come see us we can go out to dinner, but the last time they did come here he faked sleeping the entire time and refused to get up when I tried several times to wake him up. He knew they were coming. It was really embarrassing.

His family lives in another country but his mom has visited us and stayed with us for almost a month and we’ve gone out with his aunt. His mom invited herself and she tried to invite herself again this year but plans changed. He loves his family. I was very kind to them when I saw them. He’s also going to see them in a week from now for a month, and he didn’t invite me to go.

The last time I tried to talk to him about seeing my family, he kept saying he doesn’t care about that, and I’m like well I care so you should do it for me. I’d do anything for you. He kept arguing so I said maybe we both should just have nothing to do with each other’s family ever again and he said ok and wasn’t upset by my comment. And I said that’s not really what I want! He said he’d see them “next weekend” but that didn’t happen. I know he has no intention of seeing them, probably ever again.

Everyday he says he loves me and he treats me good but this issue is really really pissing me off. My parents are wonderful people and still always get him Christmas gifts. It’s such a bad situation and I don’t know what to do about it.

**** he is an American citizen already, not using me for that